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Wedding invite but breastfeeding

Hi ladies. My 5 month old is EBF. Me and my partner have been invited to a wedding which is in 2 weeks time. It's only the evening but it would still mean I'd be gone from 5pm till midnight ish. She's a close friend and I'd love to be able to go but worrying about my boy not taking a bottle for his Nanny (partners mum) We've been trying, well my partner has mainly and it isn't looking promising 😕 We've tried my breast milk and formula and it's the same with both. We've tried Mam bottles and recently a lovely friend suggested and bought us some NUK ones to try which we started trying today. Any advice? And please be honest, would you go? I really don't want to cause him stress but I would be so happy if he took it as I really would like to go. And advice please x

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This sounds horrible but if you are comfortable with it, he would eventually take the bottle if he knows he cant get it from you, it may take the nanny a while but he wont go hungry

Are you unable to take him with you with him being under six months? Xx

Hi! My LG was refusing the bottle too and we just persisted - we tried 3 different types of bottles with different teats / flows as well as trying at different times of the day - we djdn’t want her to be distressed so would keep trying but if she started crying we would stop and try at a different time. After about 4 days she started taking it - so we stuck with that bottle and teat and repeated at that time in the day for 2 days which she took again. Then we started doing it at different times of the day with the same bottle and thankfully she took it. My advice would be to keep trying - 2 weeks is plenty of time!

Option 1. Book a hotel room for your inlaws to watch the babe and you can pop in to feed him. Option 2. When we did bottles of milk I either pumped and directly gave her the bottle. Or when heating milk I didn't realize it needed to be warmer. Warmer than I thought for her to drink it. So try to make it warmer. I also didn't hold her. I put her in a baby bjorn chair thing. Equally try your husband giving the bottle. They associate you with boob so have someone else try to offer the bottle with you out sight

Have someone else offer the bottles when you are nowhere to be seen. If they see you as an option, theyre moke likely to refuse the bottle

You giving the milk warm? I know my boy wouldn’t take milk out the fridge/cooled down. I would say keep trying for another week maybe leave the house for couple of hours when partner tries to feed and see how you go. If he doesn’t accept would say don’t go because you’ll just be worried and not enjoy yourself anyway x

Per the words of my doctor. “They won’t starve themselves, they will eventually take a bottle if they’re hungry enough” I know it’s not a big help but it is true.

Why don’t you take him with you and his nanny like not to the actual wedding but to wherever you are staying So incase he doesn’t take the bottle you can go feed him and come back to the wedding

I’d just go for 2-3 hours to show my respect for the newlyweds. I’m sure they’d be understanding, especially if it’s a “no kids” wedding. I guess it depends on how far the destination is from where your baby will be and how long your baby can last between feeds.

@Carla I have a wedding to go to in Utah in a month and I can’t stand leaving my soon to be 2 months in Vegas while I’m all the way in Utah. 😿 she has to come with me lol

Yes I have a wedding where my little one will only be three months, I intend to take her x

If my boy wasn't happy taking a bottle and it would cause him stress getting to the point of having to take one unwillingly out of desperation, I personally wouldn't go. There is a really helpful Facebook group called 'Breastfeeding and Lactation Support UK' that's run by qualified breastfeeding supporters, they might be able to advise you on ways to encourage the bottle or alternatives if there are any x

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