I don’t want any suggestions and I don’t want advice. If you relate, thank you and my heart goes out to you but if you don’t move along

I know you said you don't want advice but this was me 2 weeks ago. Losing it. Then we sleep trained and now everyone is sleeping. I understand if that's not for you and I'm sorry. The sleep deprivation is no joke.

I feel you definitely need advice regardless if you want it. She’s actually supposed to eat that much at night she’s definitely not too old and that’s actually quite less than most babies eat at night at this stage. I would definitely take her to her ped to see if she’s colic or has another issue that I know causes crying I just can’t think of the name. But my baby sleeps on me all night and refuses a bed entirely so I feel for you and with my first it was definitely stressful. I would maybe try her on some purées and see if that helps with the crying at night potentially to see if the higher calories help.

This is actually concerning because I’m not sure who told you she doesn’t need to eat that much at night but that’s not true. All babies are different, but generally babies only eat because they are hungry. Babies are not terrors and you’re showing signs of postpartum rage from your lack of sleep, I suggest you reach out for help. I’ve been a first time mom before and while the colicky screaming is overstimulating and it’s difficult to deal with when you’re losing sleep, it’s something that needs to be taken care of - not quieted with a pacifier. Her stomach likely hurts and she can also be teething right now. Not really sure if you’re burping her or not but I’ll suggest that after every 10 minutes of nursing or taking a bottle, you should burp her and continue to burp her until she actually burps. Babies get up at different hours and while it might be frustrating, you’re better off working with her than against her.

@Rebecca I actually don’t. We just had her visit with the pediatrician and we follow her recommendation. She absolutely doesn’t have colic and we are doing really well despite your concerns. Sometimes, it helps to communicate how you feel and you just need to be heard and that’s all this was. No offense but comments like yours make me regret posting anything at all and I know you mean well but it’s condescending

@Katherine we are in the middle of sleep training her and believe it or not we have been!! We just gave in more than we should have I think in the beginning lol I have a soft spot for her and now we are living the consequences

@Monica you have to follow your intuition. We tried to sleep train a month ago and she was just not ready- waking up crying all night. After a week I couldnt handle it anymore and abandoned ship. We are trying again and it's going smoother. But she still wakes up at 4 am for a feed and even tho I don't think she "needs" it i don't have it in me to drop it yet. But now we are able to sleep for a longer stretch at least so it's still better. But also of you're trying to sleep train you shouldn't be replacing the pacifier constantly - you are trying to teach her to go to sleep independently so if you keep intervening it won't help and you're just torturing yourself!

@Monica sorry I didn’t mean for it to sound condescending in anyway but I get where you got that from. My apologies.

@Rebecca that’s alright no worries

@Monica it’s not as a mom I should know better and how to use my words in a better manner.

My babe is the same age and still waking up 2-3 times a night for bottle…. Is he really too old for that? What age is “too old” to be hungry bc I missed that lesson and tbh if there’s a way to help him sleep longer in the night I’m up for learning