You can’t control what other people do. And you also don’t want to force relationships. Your daughter will grow up knowing who was there and who wasn’t. We have people in our lives like this and I just tell myself it’s their loss.
I have had multiple conversations with each individual and they just laugh it off. I’ve also invited them over and they won’t come on the day of. They will come when they feel like it. My grandmother was trying to tell me that it’s apart of it and they are allowed to show up whenever.
I don’t believe in forcing relationships either it’s exhausting. I feel like since she’s been born no body asks anything or for pictures or whatnot. I’ve been told we thought you would send pictures and give us updates. Both side of the family have told us it’s our job to update and make plans.
I’m sorry you’re going through that, that sounds isolating. It’s their job to be involved too if they want a relationship so it’s not all on you. I wouldn’t put much more effort into it if they won’t.
Can you have an honest conversation with your family, assuming you are fairly close? They may just be unsure where you are with your boundaries since spring is just beginning. Maybe bring her to your moms for a few hours and bring the pack and play so she can get used to being around her. Or invite them over on a weekend for an hour. Or go to an Easter get together if they are having one. Wishing you luck!