Disappointing pregnancy

I hated every second of my pregnancy. I was told by my midwife this is normal for some women. I was seen by a pregnancy mental health team which helped a little. My birth was semi complicated. I have high BP and protein present so I was treated as if I had pre-eclampsia but really I was pre pre-eclampsia. I was left to labour on the antenatal ward without all the checks I needed. A minute who wasn't supposed to be worked stepped in and advocated for me as I was so uncomfortable. When we got to the birthing suite I was told I wasn't allowed a water birth because baby was measuring so small all my pregnancy (I was told initially I could have one). They then didn't believe me when I said she was crowning. They took ages to get me gas and air. They couldn't find her heart beat on the monitor and said they needed to put a clip on her head I said no. They then said they'd need to do a check only to find out I was actually crowning. All this time I was telling them I needed to push and they were telling me not too

I'm now 11 month pp and so in love. I didn't start enjoying motherhood till about 3 month pp

I’m so sorry you feel this way.. I had my daughter within an hour of my contractions starting.. at the time it felt so traumatic because I felt blindsided. I also felt really alone post birth at the hospital and my narcissistic mother tried to ruin my first night back home with my daughter. I think redirecting my energy back to my daughter and allowing myself to understand plans change and I have plenty of time to create wonderful memories with her helped me get through it. I still feel lonely at times but looking at her and seeing she’s healthy and thriving outweighs all the negatives. Also I’m in therapy so I am able to keep my mental health in check. I hope you feel better soon and are able to redirect and find gratitude for your experiences. xx

I'm 2 and half weeks pp. And I still remember every pain every part of the labour. My mental health isn't too great but getting better. Take it day by day that's what I'm doing xx

I’d defo recommend talking to your doctor about this. I also was very disappointed and upset during and after pregnancy. My mother made my life a living hell for simply existing all my friends have cut me off or cancelled plans on me last minute. My birth experience was scary in my opinion. I was in hospital stuck in early labor for two days before being induced. They broke my waters and left me with nothing for around 30 hours which caused me to have an infection and stay in hospital for days after. Needled poking in me from everywhere and I could barely hold my baby, let alone feed and change her. Almost all the nurses were rude and uncaring and the only person who helped with me was a breast feeding specialist. She had to hold my baby and rock her to sleep as I couldn’t hold her due to the fluids I was getting. I understand how you feel completely!!

my pregnancy was cut short 6 weeks. I ended up giving birth at home and me and my daughter rode in 2 different ambulances . So i didnt see her for the first like 6 hours.Thankfully she was okay and healthy just had to stay in the nicu for 3 weeks and I was fine and healed quick. But I was sad I didn't get to take pictures before she came out. my friends and i had a little baby shower while she was in the nicu. My mom got us alit of stuff. I will say we've had the mental support but his family is not in state and mom works so haven't had much physical. I know its not the same. I think it's normal to feel upset if the birth didn't go as planned or feel like u missed out. Just focus on you and baby. I'm sorry your family isn't there for you but it's okay. You can do this without them. It's gonna be hard and your gonna be sad, mad, tired, exhausted and overwhelmed. But you will find your routine and it'll get easier. I hope this app helps you and you can make some friends in your area.

also it's okay to let go of people even family. Maybe it's a good thing they have acted like this. You have seen how they act/treat you when you need support. I'm not saying cut them off just cuz this. But don't forget how they are treating you when you need support. My family was toxic growing up and wasn't there when I needed them but it's okay. They showed how much they truly cared about me. I started working and focusing on myself. Once I moved out on my own for the first time I didn't get any checkins for a few months. I have never been mentally healthier since I focused on myself and my life. I hope this makes sense. I hope you know how important and special you are. I hope you find your way around everything. Sometimes you have to stop reaching out to them and let them reach out to you. Don't try so hard asking them for help if it doesn't get anywhere. Save your energy, Let go of the negative and embrace the positive.