I can't leave the house - EBF on demand
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I completely agree with Emma. It will get so much easier, you’re getting to the 3/4 month mark where they start to become more efficient at the breast so can go longer. I know everyone is different with feeding outside of the house, but in the 16 months I’ve been breastfeeding my boy I haven’t had a single comment/negativity. The first places I breastfed in public were at local breastfeeding cafes/support groups. You could see if there’s any close to you and they really help as you talk to other mums in a similar place to you & they have volunteers that are trained to help you with anything breastfeeding related. Then me and my husband went to places like the m and s cafe during quiet periods, so he would be there to support me if needed. It will get better & you’re doing an amazing job x
Yeah I was in exactly the same space for a while but all I can say is that I promise it gets easier. My girl wanted feeding constantly and we had a bad start and she fed like every hour and I couldn't go anywhere. Her feeds however are now quicker and she goes much longer without a feed. I now have time to go and do an hours gym class a 20 minutes drive away. We can have outings together as a family and I'll only have to feed her out once etc. I got used to feeding her out of the house really quickly and it's the easiest thing now. I always try and feed her just before we go out but if she needs feeding our there's no issues. I've fed in play parks, restaurants, cafes, supermarket cafes, waiting rooms. Everything. I've had 0 comments at all.
You won’t be stuck forever. It’s just a phase and a very normal one. Your baby probably likes flutter sucking. So did mine and u fed for a similar time at that age. It gets shorter at around 5ish months in my experience. If I could do it again, I wouldn’t worry about leaving the house at this point. Just continue with local walks and enjoy this very short (even though it feels long) phase https://www.instagram.com/stories/lucywebberfeedingsupport_ibclc/3614935214905843535?igsh=MW5uaHZ1c2U4bGdiZw==
I just used to wing it at this age. I’d go out and sometimes baby would have to wait a little bit for feed, until I found somewhere to sit etc. and then sometimes if I needed to get up or leave where I was, I’d just unlatch her and usually she’d be fine. I used to go a lot to my local library baby group. Met lots of other mums there, no one batted an eye at babies being fed. I saw the odd mum with a cover but most of us didn’t. Was a good place to get used to feeding in public. Have not long weaned my girl but I’m confident enough now to feed almost anywhere. X
Hang in there! Wish I had something better to say besides it just eventually gets easier but I’ve spent a lot of feeds in the car or a lot of lunch’s/ outings in the bathroom. It’s rough but the feeds get shorter and the spacing gets a little easier/ consistent! I wouldn’t. I recommended trying to add a Motn pump soon before your milk regulates when your prolactin is highest between 2-5am you make milk the fastest then so baby doesn’t miss out on anything
It sounds like you're mostly nervous about feeding in public? Remember that it's completely normal and natural for baby to want feeding regularly and for you to breastfeed whenever necessary. Try to focus on your baby rather than anyone else. Or what I like to do is keep watching around me and glare at anyone who looks at me funny so they get embarrassed 🙊😂 As others have said, the feeding will improve, but equally you don't have to wait for that before you go out anywhere, and you definitely don't need to hide anywhere when you're out in public, there's nowhere that breastfeeding is inappropriate or unacceptable
I promise it does get easier. With Bf it’s easier to have no routine; feed on demand. His feeds will get shorter, my LG is a year and will feed for 5/6 mins unless she’s going to sleep. Her feeds started to get shorter around 4 months. I would say the best thing you can do is go out with him and feed in public, inoculate yourself. If you’re say for an hour, sit in a good spot to people watch. Here if you want to chat xx