Am i wrong

Yesterday, we spent Easter with his family. His sister-in-law is a sleep coach and infant specialist with a well-known sleep coaching business.We promised to be good and not let anything get to us because she always talks down to us like we've never raised kids before. Our oldest is 14; we have around 20 nieces and nephews; our nephew's oldest is in his mid-20s. We were talking about our daughter and her sleeping habits because she was about to stay the night with her grandparents, and I had said she's in a sleep regression. She started telling the grandmother how she's going to be too tired to watch her daughter because she was having my baby overnight and she shouldn't say yes to us. And how my daughter just didn't get over a sleep regression, saying, "That's not a sleep regression." Like, woman, I know my baby, I know her habits, I know what she's like...and I'm sorry her regressions are minor, and we don't need your help, but don't tell me I'm wrong and I don't know my own daughter. That's what I wanted to tell her, but I didn't. We have cut her off; my fiancé finally got to speak to his brother yesterday, and she hated it. I wish they could have a relationship. Is it wrong to never want to see anyone ever again when it comes to protecting your family?
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I don’t think you are wrong. My husband and his brother are slowly talking to each other after almost a year bc for some reason my brother-in-law wife decided to make up a story in her mind just bc I don’t speak to her at all anymore, I’m slowly talking to my brother-in-law again but not as before and I told my husband he can go and visit his brother whenever he wants but I’m not going near her or her house. I love my nephews and I miss them so much but I know my husband misses his brother so I rather sacrifice my relationship with my nephews so that my husband keeps his with his brother :(

To answer your question, no. But steps we take before getting to the point of “cut off” are to establish boundaries and properly communicate them. Once my husband and I are in agreement of what exactly we will allow and not allow our in our family we communicate that to others You can’t have a boundary without a “fence” that others know about to not cross. So in this case, if your sister in law was not aware of your boundary with unsolicited advice and what the result would be if she crossed it, it needed to be communicated to her. Then if she decided to cross that “fence” then the consequence is justified to be acted upon So often people have boundaries and fail to communicate them and then we have a bunch of people mad at each other because they wished they’d known to begin with. It’s not always assumed others will know what limits are

Not wrong. I’d personally tell her to kick rocks too especially because of her sabotaging the grandmother from watching your baby in favor of her own child.

Your daughter in her dress is so cute!

Honestly it seems like an overreaction, without knowing more history. Have you told her how it makes you feel, and that you do not want her opinion on your kids’ sleep habits? If you have and she persists then taking a break makes sense. But it especially doesn’t seem worthy of having your fiancé cut contact with his brother.

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