in August 2024 Babies 🇺🇸

Overreacting/Overthinking?

I feel like i’m overthinking the entire thing but please someone give me insight. Also a bit of a rant - My husband and I post our daughter on instagram and facebook on occasion. I typically post on my stories so it disappears. We both have private accounts with just family and close friends. We asked our family to limit their posts of her. We found out my sister in law has been posting my daughter on her tiktok and my mother in law has been posting on her business page of my daughter. To add to all this, my daughter goes to my mother in laws house every week and she ALWAYS without fail, changes her clothes and hair completely. I told my husband about how it makes me feel a bit irritated as I dress her up and spend time on her hair, all for his mom to take our everything I did and put her on something she bought her randomly. We also had to buy a huge box of diapers for her house because she claimed our daughter pees and poops every few minutes there and she’d run through 20-30 diapers in 8hrs. I brought all this up and my husband thinks I’m being overdramatic and overthinking the situation. But I feel like if I’ve asked someone not to do something or asked them to let her sot in the diaper a little longer than changing as soon as she thinks there’s a drop of pee, they would be more cooperative. Now seeing them today, her hair destroyed from the work I did and in a dress that she has a rash in from the material, I just feel upset.

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Maybe limit the time she spends at your mil house? I don’t think you’re being overly dramatic. You’re the mother and they need to respect your boundaries.🤷‍♀️

We had a 10 month break from seeing MIL because of all the crossed boundaries and she is wayyyy different now. I guess it gave her a reality check. We both sent her long messages explaining why we needed space and held firm for almost the entire year. I 100% recommend speaking to her about your boundaries and limiting time. I’m STICT on not posting photos of my children and MIL did it all the time behind our backs, which was one of the reasons we cut her off. Need to get your husband on board as well or MIL won’t take it seriously. Socials are dangerous for children, no photo is ever gone or disappeared and there are wayyyy more pedos out here than people realize. Just checking our local sex offended list was enough. Also, the diaper thing is wild. She shouldn’t be changing baby every 15 minutes like wtf? What a waste, there’s no way a baby is peeing and pooping that much unless there’s an underlying issue. Sorry, I’m frustrated for you. I hope you figure it out for your own peaho

@Kate my husband says he’s going to talk to her next week when we drop our baby off to her. We work ft, and she is one of our weekly sitters. We have another person that watches our baby on other days. That person NEVER goes through more than 8 diapers and that would be excessive for her. My MIL claims she was sticking a finger in the diaper to check if it’s wet. We told her to stop doing that and use the indicator on the diaper or to look inside not touch. She claims she no longer puts her hand in. It all makes me upset a bit, but I try to be nice because I know we don’t have many options for care while we work

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