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You are going through a lot, mentally, physically, emotionally, hormonally…. A lot that you do not have control over. Give yourself grace but also understand he is too just not in the same way (or capacity but he will not likely understand that) I am 8 mo pp and just now starting to feel somewhat like a human again. The only thing that helped me was intense therapy. (Check out Clear Behavioral health, they are pretty great) it’s so so hard to handle it all. Hopefully he understands that this is not how you or things will always be so not to take it to personal and set clear boundaries for each other. I feel for you, this now moving ish ain’t easy.
hi just want to let you know that you are not alone! i still sometimes struggle with this despite how much we try to avoid fighting, sometimes I just get overstimulated bc baby wants me more and i get burnt out. Solidarity here from a FTM 16 months PP 🩷
Hi, I don’t have much advice but I went through this too. Just wanted to say you are not alone!🤍
Hey mama, so I was struggling a lot with being angry PP but I was a very angry person before my pregnancy so this didn’t help at all. What I found that helped me was something my partner does daily that I find adorable or I love him doing. My partner humps me and I think it’s cute 🙄😂 I can’t live without my little humper and when I get angry and frustrated over nothing I think of that and giggle cause he does it out of love and to show he thinks I’m attractive still after 5 years. I think it’s the little things we can find that we love about our SO to bring us back down. I also try and remember that he has feelings too and how would I feel if he were to speak to me or look at me and do the things I’m about to do. It would hurt my feelings and most likely make me cry so I reevaluate and readjust. I’m also in therapy and she told me to picture myself in a pot over a fire with the fire being my feelings. If it’s to hot walk away from the pot and come back when it’s cooled off.
She also told me if it’s “hurting me or helping me” and we’ve done a lot of work with reframing so I look at things more half full then half empty which is how I used to view the world. I hope these things 🤍 remember your man has feelings too and if he’s trying to do better and be good to you then you’re probably hurting him a lot by acting the way you do. I wish you the best on your PP journey lovely 🤍
Maybe try increasing your therapy sessions, or you may need some other intervention like medication. Sounds like he's trying, but dealing with someone who's battling mental issues along, working and dealing with day to day things is exhausting. And if you want your relationship to improve, you should explore some more ways to help it. Try planning some date nights just you and him, something relaxing that you both would enjoy, doesn't have to be expensive, I find the most random things to do with my hubby. Being each other's peace in the relationship is so important, if you can't bring peace to each other, the emotional connection starts to dwindle. Also, arguments could be a trigger for him, I know for me, that's a huge trigger. I shut down if we argue and slowly start to dislike people. I share these things with my hubby so he understands me better. I refrain from doing things I know upsets him as well.