Tantrums 🥲

My son (20m) is in the same boat. We stopped giving him screen time. And if he did get a show it was low stimulation. That has definitely helped. He also gets timeouts (1 minute) for hitting or physically hurting someone. Then we talk “you went to timeout for hitting we need gentle hands” he says sorry hug kiss and on our way. I tell him it’s okay to be mad. We can stomp our feet. Or clap our hands. We then take deep breaths to calm down. (This isn’t an instant thing it takes a few minutes and ALOT OF help to calm down.) Hang in there mama it’s the age and it’s so hard when they can’t verbalize there feelings

Pray...because I think that's the only way most of us are getting through them 😂. Seriously though. I reassure my son that its ok to be upset but it doesn't change the outcome, offer hugs and let him get it out his system or redirect him to something else. I've also heard passively ignoring them to reinforce that it doesn't get them attention works. We tried that but didn't work for us. Our son prefers the hugs and redirecting.

My 20 month old drives me crazy with her tantrums. This past week it’s been worsening. Every little thing triggers her, my husband and I are at each other’s throats. Would love some advice myself that actually works…

My daughter is the same way she's a year and a half and her tantrums

Are horrible

Sorry, no advice because we're dealing with the same thing. Glad to know I'm not the only one, though! My son is the same age. We're also in the Atlanta area.

Use your judgement based on the situation, but ignoring the whining and crying can help. If they’re in a tizzy and nothing is helping, be a calm quiet presence without giving it any more attention. And then when they catch their breath or start calming down, redirect. Ideally, you’ve started doing some housework or something that you can engage them into while calmly waiting. With my girl, the tantrums are most often miscommunications because she doesn’t have the words yet to be specific and we are trying hard to understand. All behavior is communication. Good luck! We’re really in the thick of it :)

@Tessa how do you get your baby to sit in timeout mine will never sit still unless he is sleeping.

Lots of practice! We started in the rocking chair in his room so I could shut the door. And watch him on the monitor (to keep him safe) And now it’s any chair that’s near. I tell him to find a seat and he does.. Because he’s still so young it’s only a minute and if it’s 40 seconds and he’s calm it’s close enough. Just be consistent. On how you do timeouts and they catch on pretty quick! I’ve always been short and sweet “we don’t hit.” Remove and take to timeout. Set down walk away. Timer goes off. And then explain “you went to time out for hitting” apologies and hugs and kisses and move on. He is starting to tell me “why did you go to time out” and he will say “hit mama” or “mad” and trying to get him to verbalize his actions. Has been helping the tantrums!

Does he still hit again after timeouts?

Thanks so much for the tips!! I’ve tried ignoring but he just gets more aggressive with the throwing himself around and stomping his little feets lol..he doesn’t throw them often, just mainly when I try to serve him some food that he doesn’t want.. so yesterday I sat quietly on the floor with him while he thrashed around in his chair and eventually he stopped after about 5-10 minutes.. I’m just trying to find ways to keep calm and to calm him enough to learn to use his words.. definitely gonna try the redirecting but I don’t want to just give in to him eating a snack instead of real food.