Low mood

Anyone that suffers from low mood, and just don’t feel like mothering/adulting? I woke today feeling down, it my day off today and I have my 4 yo with me, Thursdays are our usual day off after a busy week of work and childcare. I’m currently pregnant with our second, in third trimester and we’re in a bit of a pickle. Me and hubby don’t have a village, my mum lives half hr away, in her 70s and has heaps of health issues so she can’t help, hubby’s family is overseas. I asked my close friend yesterday as we’ve been through high lows and everything in between, we get each other. She’s a mum too with tween girls and works 3-4 days a week. I asked her if she could mind her if the time came and to be honest I wasn’t expecting her response.. I thought she’d help me out. It was almost like she was ooooh & ummmm-ing.. 😟😕 then she ask couldn’t my mum take care of her (my mum is out of the question, toxic mum already been in a situation where she couldn’t handle my daughter’s emotions). In a way, I’m kinda disappointed, I support her so much even when she’s down or going through stuff with her hubby or other friends, I put a lot of effort in our friendship and I feel like I’m not getting the same in return.. 🙁🥺 So this morning was really slow, made brekkie for myself and my daughter, just not in a great cheery mood today, put a wash on but that wash wasn’t hung until maybe 3 hours later, sometimes I feel like I can’t adult sometimes… Does anyone get this sometimes?
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I definitely do. I'm so sorry you're going through that! I had wonderful parents but not really any reliable friends to empathize and be there to lean on. It's so tough. Just a thought - could it be that she is feeling so overwhelmed that she feels she has nothing to offer or give anyone else right now? I understand that feeling as well. ☹️ Sometimes we have to really spell it out if the need is great. Hugs ❤️

@Patricia I’m not sure 🤔

Can definitely relate and as someone who had a falling out with their best friend (who was also pregnant at the same time as me), I can relate to the feeling of disappointment over the way a friendship panned out too. One thing I have learned this year is most people in your circle will be fair weather friends only. This is especially hard if friendship, empathy, helping others out, etc, are all high priorities and values to you, as they are to me. I'm sorry you're going through this right now. It really does take a village and as someone who also doesn't have one and wish they did, it's okay to have your fair share of off days. I know I do x

Is fair weather like the same as seasonal friends? In my life when it’s convenient to them? Or if they need something they’ll contact me..? I really don’t have many friends which is sad, they just seem to all have stuff going on and I can’t just have 1 supportive/reliable friend that can help me out when I need it 😣

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