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is it really what you want?
I take notes because I just want to say something but I also don't want to take up all the talking space and not hear him out so I take notes on what I have questions about so I can still have an opinion but not steam roll him down with facts and logic lol I have this problem because my husband speaks slowly with a southern draw doesn't get to the point and seems to have poor problem solving and reasoning skills but that doesn't make it right for me to be a quick thinking Latina and just tell him to shut up he's slow lol so the notes help me pause and listen and not just completely push his opinion aside
If he's trying to say he's more "logical" by letting it play out, then it's most likely he takes longer to process. There is nothing wrong with you girl, your passionate and emotional, and that's perfectly normal reactions.
If he was a leader he would be from the start right? I don’t know correct me if I’m wrong.
@Sarah yes I want it not only for my marriage but every day life
@Jo I appreciate this I’m going to try hopefully this helps, thank you
@Sab yes he has been, the problem is we meant when I was 18 about to be 19 and he was 22 so he had his time to mature and I was left to mature with him in my life. I’ve grown and learned and changed a lot along the way I just have some quirks I struggle with. They’re not a problem because he says they are but because I’ve struggled with them since school and haven’t found a way to help myself, now it’s not just affecting me but it’s affecting my marriage as well.
I strongly encourage staying true to yourself. If you want to change, do it for yourself. He knew what he was getting into. He knew what he signed up for. If he's the one having a change of heart, then I suggest he does some reflecting.