Timing for next child?

I don’t know if you want to hear this but I don’t recommend it. I have 2 under 2 they’re only 13 months apart and it is sooo hard. At least in the stage I am right now I wouldn’t have purposely done it this way. I don’t think it’s fair for either of my babies because no matter what I cannot give them my undivided attention or quality time and not fair to my body I’m in constant pain from my pelvic floor; already seeing a chiropractor and doing exercises…. Anyway it’s very difficult to tend to 2 different constant needs because I’m on my own all day I spend most of my day outside because I’m a no screen mom makes it easier. But no matter what I do a baby is always crying. Also I’m breastfeeding my 8 month old still and at some point when he was a new born I was breastfeeding both at night I was getting zero sleep 🥲 So if you do decide having your second soon my advice is to wean off the other one and have them sleeping thru the night that was my biggest mistake.

While I don’t have 2 babies yet, I am a fertility, prenatal, and postpartum massage therapist/doula and this would be my advice (as I’m currently in the same boat and want another baby but also want my body back) Prepare your mind/body! It takes the body around 2 years just to really get your organs in a position similar to before you had children. Postpartum isn’t talked about enough and how much it affects you. Pregnancy and breastfeeding take a lot from our bodies and truly it’s a time to be replenishing the body before taking on another pregnancy. In doing this, we begin to listen to our body’s needs, tune into our hormones, and feel more connected to ourselves and confident in our the strength to sustain a healthy pregnancy. You can use this time to help build core strength and back strength to carry a toddler while pregnant. You can also use this time to learn what imbalances your body may have and build back your calcium, iron, and magnesium before TTC ❤️

I waited until 18 months to start trying because I didn't want 2 under 2. My kiddos are 26 months apart. It's a perfect age gap IMO. I was aiming for a 3 year gap thinking it would take longer to get pregnant, but in just the 8 months my Aug baby has been here my son is already so much more independent. I was also ready physically and mentally which anything under 12 months pp I would not have been. Influencers glamorize 2 under 2, but it's really really hard. Your first baby is still a baby.

I want to get pregnant early next year (my first will be 17-22ish months old), and about 2.5 by the time baby is born.. as the oldest with my next sibling 4 years younger, it was hard to connect with him.. so I know I want them closer but I don't want her too young because my husband wasn't much help the first few months and didn't start getting better until she was older so I want him to be able to play and keep her occupied while I car for newborn