What do I do!?!

Background info: my husband's best friend, been through high school and military together we'll call him A. I've known him for 5 years. His wife we'll call her T I've known since A introduced me to her 4 years ago. When I was pregnant I lived with A and T for 3 months they were very nice to take me in but things were awkward. They had relationship trouble and the apartment wasn't big enough for all of us and the poorly trained dogs. During my stay I got to know T and shes kind of a terrible wife to A. She's mean and never helps him and always expected him to do everything. Often speaking badly of him to me. So she told me she had been messaging other dudes when he was working in trucking because she felt abandoned. She told me that he knew and they worked it out but even then i suspected she might not have told him. I never said anything because I felt awkward that she told me and it wasn't my business in the first place. I didn't even tell my husband who is As best friend. Now I feel like I made the wrong choice. They were at my house today and she was being so mean to him in front of people and trying to fight him while he was holding my baby who is his god son. Is it too late to say something or should I mind my business? What should I do? If I do say something to him, what do i say?

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If I were in your position, I would confide in my husband first and foremost.

@Evelyn I did this evening

Hopefully, you guys can help in some way... it sounds like his friend is in an abusive relationship :/ he might not be willing to leave her, but if anything, it might be nice to have someone to talk to about what's been going on if he's willing to open up. That's probably how I would initiate a conversation with him, whether that be by you or your husband... maybe mention what you witnessed the other night when she became confrontational and ask how you can be of best support to him. I'm not sure if bringing up the information she revealed to you is the best option or not. If I were him, I'd want someone to tell me... but you/your husband might have a better idea of what to/not to mention.

Not too late to say something. Especially if they are in your house. You get to see your own rules

Personally, I would mind my own business. I was in this situation before and I wasn’t believed…I lost the connection and was made into the villain in the situation. I think it would be difficult for A not to know on his own and it might be more challenging for him knowing others know, like it might uncomfortable coming around knowing that you know that info about their relationship. Better to affirm, without specifics, that ya’ll care about him and would be there for him if he needs it.

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