Having a very hard time…

Heavily considered ending my pregnancy because of these feelings, I had SUCH a hard first trimester between depression, body dysmorphia and pregnancy related illness. My hubby and I were fighting a lot and I felt so lost. I’ve always wanted a baby and thought pregnancy would be hard but magical in some ways at least. It really didn’t get better until the second trimester and now being 3 weeks away I’m so excited for baby to be here. I’m so thankful I stuck it out, my pregnancy certainly wasn’t easy at any point but I’m thankful and so so excited to meet my baby 🫶🏻 if you want to terminate that’s totally understandable but there is hope mama, it gets better. Talk to your OB about pregnancy depression, I had to go back on my meds and I’m going to be staying on them even after birth because frankly I’m more stable on them.

I just wanna say I feel so seen with this post, you are not alone ❤️ (the only thing I can’t relate to is ending the pregnancy bc it took us 4 years of trying to get here. But you need to do what’s right for you) But pregnancy has been a nightmare for me too. I feel like my joy has been sucked out of me and every day is just another struggle. Try n put on a smile for others. On top of that I don’t feel any connection with the baby and I’m in 3rd trimester. I envy other moms who say they feel very connected and amazed at their body’s abilities . I’ve posted on this app before and what comforted me was that tons of moms did not like being pregnant. I’m sad that it’s me, but I’m not alone. And you’re not alone. Please consider this a virtual hug bc it’s so hard and I know it💞

Absolutely! I feel terrible, I’m just coming up to 10 weeks and I don’t remember it being this hard with my first. I don’t feel like myself anymore I’m constantly nauseous, I hate my partner. The smell of absolutely everything. He has been absolutely fantastic but I don’t want him anywhere near me. I’m taking a cocktail of so many things to help this pregnancy and I really don’t think that’s helping (I’ve had 4 miscarriages in the past so have to take daily aspirin and progesterone ontop of the usual stuff) plus the pressure of trying to stay pregnant. It’s bloody tough xx

Bless you, I really do empathise and feel for you and you definitely aren’t alone in feeling miserable tbh. I’m currently just over 10 weeks and I just feel so sad all the time, exhausted, nauseous and riddled with anxiety (and sometimes depressed!) This is my first pregnancy and we did want this but I think the idea that it’s a beautiful, wonderful time for people needs to be dispelled because there’s plenty of us who are suffering and not enjoying it. Everyone seems to say the second trimester is better so I’m really holding out hope for that, and would suggest you do too. I don’t know your individual circumstances - for example we started trying for a baby this year so did actually want this, plus I’m 34 so am aware I’m not getting any younger, but if your circumstances are different (also not sure what stage of pregnancy you’re at) but if this isn’t something you want to go through with then that’s completely a personal choice. Be kind to yourself - this is a hard time xx

Awww sending lots of love to you and everyone else who feels this way. I completely understand because I have experienced this in my first pregnancy and now in my second, at 10 weeks. Having spoken at length to several health professionals about this, find comfort in this: hormones are raging in your body and this has a *VERY REAL* impact on your emotions and how you feel. You wouldn’t necessarily take notice of this or know, especially if it’s your first pregnancy, but the first trimester is notoriously difficult because of the hormonal turmoil and it’s extremely common to feel sad, lost, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, unmotivated and disappointed as a result. Find comfort in knowing that things will feel COMPLETELY different in your second trimester as your hormones begin to level out and you’ll begin feeling more like yourself again. Just hold on tight and trust things will soon turn around and you’ll feel so so much better - not long to go!!!