Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Baby number 3

Hi everyone! I always envisioned myself having 4 children and I welcomed my second child in February this year. I’m 32 years old and I’m wondering how I could possibly handle a third. I also have an almost 3 year old . I’m a sahm and very dedicated to my kids but I’m so tired. I don’t know whether to grow my family...

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Message after giving birth for family and friends

How did you politely say that you don't want visitors straight away?

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Stims Round 2😅

Anyone else in their stim cycle? Starting stims tonight for my second ivf round. Heres to hope this is the one🤞🏼

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Colostrum collecting

How long before did you collect colostrum and is it easy? I’m coming up 37 weeks and not getting anything yet…

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Younger child won't let me near older child

I have a 3.5 year old daughter and a 1 year old daughter. My younger one has recently become quite possessive over me. And if my elder daughter tries to come near me or sit on my lap or just wants cuddles from her mom, my younger one will start a crying fit as soon as she sees it. When this happens I usually just te...

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First ever FET

I had my first ever transfer this morning, I’m so nervous yet so excited. What are some things I should do to help my embryo stick. Pic of our hopefully soon to be Bub after the transfer

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Another Baby

Hey lady’s What’s your thought on having another baby after having a baby with Down syndrome? We didn’t know our little one would have Down syndrome and it’s been a roller coaster but, as the days have gone on. I feel like she needs a sibling but absolutely scared in case we have another sick child, we just don’t w...

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Ferber success stories please

Starting tonight and so far so so difficult

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Godparents

When is the right time to ask if a person wants to be my baby’s godparents?

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Has anyone ever changed a child's surname before?

I really want to change my son's surname. Does it cause issues later in life? Thanks

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Parent and child spaces

RANT - So I was shopping the other day to get Calpol for my daughter who is just over 1 and had a slight fever. I had to take her with me as there was no one else to keep an eye on her. I just about managing to get a parent and child space (I had to drive around a session time). When going back to my car I saw a c...

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Do these rule/ expectations sound normal or ridiculous?

Boundaries around/about our kids No kissing at all No sharing pictures online No sharing information or pictures with mom and dad We won’t ever do sleepovers No visitors in the hospital If we ask for them back give them back Don’t show up unannounced Don’t visit if sick Ask before giving them food Don’t stick fi...

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FET Sucess and Mental/Emotional State

Has anyone had both a successful and an unsuccessful FET? Do you remember being in a different mental/emotional state, or having and specific mantras/tils/etc regarding your mental emotional perspective or state when it DID work? I've had chemicals in the past and all additional testing checked okay. I'm going for m...

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Struggling a Little

I don't feel I'm bonding to my second child. He's incredibly difficult and isn't easy to settle. he's probably colic and has reflux. Often cries when not feeding or asleep. Today I literally ran home from the supermarket because he was crying and people were looking. (yes I do care what people think, no I won't sto...

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Holiday as single mum

Hi can anyone help me do I need to get permission from the father to take my child abroad? He is on the birth certificate however doesn’t see the child or have any contact with us

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Would you let your young children play with other children who are actively living in a homeless shelter?

Might sound like a stupid question but how concerned should I be with letting my children play with other children that live in a homeless shelter? They are their cousins who they've never met before but are now coming into their life. I'm asking because every time we have a doctors appointment we are always asked i...

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Waiting on embryo update

We had our ER on Thursday. They got 10 eggs, 5 of which were mature and all 5 fertilized 🙏🏻 my clinic will update on Day 7...we are praying they all make it to Day 7. Anybody else in the same boat of waiting?

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Hey, First Time Mommies💞

Has anyone felt like you’re not fully prepared , with having stuff in order and time is getting closer and closer? And lowkey panicking

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Flying with baby when you have a different surname?

Unmarried and UK based. Flying with my baby and grandparents in a few weeks. What permissions (letter, birth certificate?) do I need from my partner to take our son out the country without being hassled at border control? We don’t share the same surname! Thank you!

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FET

Hii..today is my 4th transfer..when I started meds of this cycle I was very much confident and positive but today as the day is near I am deeply scared ...I don't hv any negative thoughts I am just scared and feel like crying non stop ...I don't know why..please suggest something to calm myself down ..

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