Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

Honest, unfiltered, and in real-time: what women like you are talking about. Peanut group chats, support, and posts on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy.

"Pro lifers" -please stop using infertile people as part of your agenda

It is not the responsibility of the fertile to provide babies for adoption and it is not the responsibility of the infertile to adopt, even if it was that simple!

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How I feel

Having some spoiled and disrespectful kids. Who don't care about nobody else feelings especially their mom.

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Loving more than one child

I’m a new mom of a 9 month old. It was a struggle to conceive him took about seven years. I’ve noticed that my body is starting to act right. My husband and I are separated but we both want our child to have siblings. ( even if they are from other parents) I struggle with loving anything or someone just as much as I...

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Anyone else feel like the doom and gloom are here?

I don't trust anyone when it comes to who I want around my child. Rapists, abusers, bullies, sexual perverts, murderers, racists, schools, daycares, the list goes on. Can't even happily expose my child to other children anymore, because who knows what kind of a home they're coming from. There was a group of children...

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😻

4 weeks and 4 days today! Our double rainbow after two chemicals 🌈🌈. If anyone has any tips to manage the nerves as we wait to get to 12 weeks please throw them my way 💕

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Mum and child influencers

What’s everybody’s thoughts on them? Don’t want this to be a negative post as I see both sides, just curious on the general view about them. Part of me likes them, I love watching content that’s similar to my life, especially with kids the same age. I also think it’s great that mums can end up making it their livin...

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Hi super random question?

Just wondering if there was any mums with 2 under 2 that have a super supportive husband/partner but no family that can help with babysitting etc x just wondering how hard 2 under 2 really is to juggle without the support? Second question: we are considering moving interstate to be closer to family that can help a...

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420 VA Girls

Any of you mamas with a medical card? I’m going to go through the process tomorrow and want to know if it’s as easy as it seems. 🤔

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How do you connect with your baby when they look more like their father than their mother?

I’m nervous about connecting with my daughter. I’m 33 weeks right now so I still have time. I’m white and her dad is black. I’m worried I won’t be able to relate to her and she’ll prefer her dad to me because “he’ll understand it better”. I don’t know how to teach her about racism and how to protect herself the best...

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Am I in the wrong?

I feel like I’m being used for money by everyone they try to say they can’t afford this or that for their child yet they can afford stupid things? Then come to the day they can’t get them anything. Eg Christmas or birthdays? I don’t feel sorry for people like it no more specially her since having my own child you ha...

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Mid november ET

Anybody else having their transfer in November?

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Emotional

Giving my daughter a kiss every night not knowing if it’ll be the last time as an only child 🥺 I love her so much, where do I find the love for the second child?! Emotional Mumma here, anyone else in the same boat?

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October FET Support

Any of you ladies anticipating FET transfer prep for an October transfer? I’m looking for support buddies! 🙏🏻

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Intralipids-FET

Hey all, When did you have your intralipids before your FET? How many days before? Was your FET successful?

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Feeling super bummed about job search

Anyone else feeling super bummed about their job search? I’m looking for growth in my field and I’ve been applying for months but it never ends in an offer. I’ve been through a couple phone screens, 1st and 2nd in person interviews. I’ve even made my resume better a couple of times since the start. I’m wondering if ...

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Second baby

So my husband and I have always said we wanted a big family with at least 3 kids that were spaced a couple years apart. After having my daughter I’m highly reconsidering that because she has been a handful (she’s a colic baby and can’t be set down without crying) and I honestly couldn’t imagine doing it again, espec...

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Adopting/fostering

Hey everyone!! My husband and I have talked about adopting and we both want to get so much more information about it, I have no idea where to start! Help!!

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How long after lining check do you have a FET

Is it a week after ur lining check if all good you will have the transfer or is it two weeks ? Trying to work out time lines

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Second baby

I’m getting nervous on how my three year old boy will react/respond when we bring the baby back home from the hospital. I’m due in the middle of December and don’t want my first born to feel left out or jealous that he’s now sharing a home with his new brother. Has anyone got any tips or things I can do to prepare h...

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Sweep

Hi! What’s everyone’s experience of having a sweep? Got one booked for today at 39+4 and as a first time mum I’m so nervous for this and don’t know what to expect! Thank you 🤍

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