My romantic interest is 20 years older than me. Any advice?
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I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 38 in December. If you get on, and like eachother go for it. Dating an older man can be great for you
You have to live your life for you. So, don’t let other people’s judgmental attitude sway you. If you decide to listen them, take it with a grain of salt. Take what works for you & leave the rest. Have fun! If they want to have a deep discussion let them know, after the holidays as you don’t want to ruin anyone’s time.
if its more than a short term fling, be realistic thinking about what your life will look like in the future and if that's what you want. Do u want kids, does he, older fathers impact genetic risks etc. what does life look like when you are 40 with a 60 year old partner. realistically he's likely to not be around from when u are say 60, so whether you are prepared to have that as a life. also why a 40 year old would go for 20 year old, who should be at a very different life stage, both in maturity, interests, financial level, power in relationship imbalance etc.
@Laura this. I say neigh. Sorry but when the age gap is that big it just seems predatory. Why would a 40yr old date someone that's old enough to be his daughter. It's weird. OP please find people ur age..I day this as a caution. I like older men and would had no issue dating men 10yrs older than me. Both my BDs are in their 40s while I'm 31.. I met them when I was 27 and 28. I had the illusion older meant more mature and responsible. I wanted someone that could teach me things I didn't know.. well one ended up being crazy and the other is a clingy mommas boy. When I tell u it's a red flag it is. Keep your eyes open
If your happy go for it im 21 and my significant other is 30