Having Trouble Connecting To My Pregnancy

I'm 25 weeks pregnant now with my second baby girl and I'm having trouble connecting with my pregnancy which I didn't have trouble with my first one. I think the main reason I'm having trouble connecting is that I feel like I'm dishonoring or hurting my two-year-old daughter if I connect to the pregnancy, can anyone help me or has anyone had experiences with the similar issues?
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Hey i can’t help but I ’m also pregnant with my second due in early March and also struggling to connect to this baby, which I didn’t the first time round. I love watching and feeling movements but I don’t really feel a connection although this baby was so planned and wanted :( We are team green this time, I thought maybe I struggling because I don’t know what baby is, although I’d love another girl but also want a boy too. With my first we were set on a name and middle name from 20 weeks and didn’t change our minds so I could speak to baby by saying her name.

We have a name already. I just feel guilt like I'm replacing my daughter which is no where true. I'm due late march.

Yay for picking out a name already! I’m hoping this age gap will be great too. My daughter is 2 next week then exactly 2 months later I’m due with our second.

Our daughter will be just over two when our second is born. Hard to explain what's happening to me though.

I had a similar experience. I have a 22 month year old daughter and had our second child a few days ago. I think we are so busy chasing a toddler around that we have no time for that bonding we had in our first pregnancy. I keep thinking to myself in a years time they will be besties and have such a special bond. I'm trying to get my toddler involved in everything with the baby. She chooses its outfit, helps bath, gets nappies etc.

We also didn't find out the gender either. Maybe try come up with a cute nickname for bub 😄 we had another girl. Partner is very blessed but keeps telling me he wants another in the hope one day he will have a son 🤣

Hey there .. I remember feeling the exact same way! Me and my middle son was and is super super close! I guess I had to tell myself that my love for my middle son was not going to change at all, my love will just had to be shared a little. And I also had to tell myself that my middle boy can feel what I'm feeling, so when I was excited for the arrival of the youngest one I shared this excitement with my other little one and we both became excited that Mummy was having another baby! I hope I have worded this correct and I hope it helps. 💗

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