How is your relationship with YOUR MOTHER?

Healing your inner child leads to healing every relationship in your life. Your relationship with your own children, your spouse, your older parents, your siblings, money, friends, and most importantly…The relationship you have with yourself! One of the first steps in healing is understanding and affirming that nothing in your childhood was your fault….As an adult, it is your responsibility to heal…Which you are doing simply by becoming aware of your wounds! The first wound that many women hold is the MOTHER WOUND. This is created by a mother who held wounds from her own childhood and never healed them, which causes her to pass them on to her children. Healing begins with you. Healing begins now. I see you growing, Mama. Keep going. 🫶🏾DB (Darcel Being)

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These all describe my mom & I don’t talk to her now

Our relationship much improved after her death 15 years ago. I really only remember the good times now.

@Marie same.. I refused to allow the things my parents did/said to me willingly onto my own children.

** The mother is a narcissist who comes from a long line of people with npd. Generational trauma sucks, man. Doing my best to end it here and not pass it onto my daughter!

@Marie Celebrating you for holding your boundary, Gorgeous Woman. It can be such a hard choice to make, but I celebrate you for honoring your safety. Marie, I’m curious do you feel like you’ve healed from the pain of growing up with a mother like this? If so, what was supportive for you?

idk my momma dead but our relationship was good.

@Hannah Sending you love, Gorgeous Mama . Yes, when a loved one pass that you had a challenging relationship with….the best memories tend to rise to the surface. I’m just curious Hannah…How did you make peace and resolve the hurt after she passed?

@Sharnee Celebrating you for prioritizing your emotional safety and your children’s mental wellness too! Sharnee, I’m curious do you feel like you’ve healed from the pain of growing up with the mother described in the post? If so, what was supportive for you?

@Madison 🎯 🎯🎯 Absolutely. That’s how and why the cycle continues…The wounds they experience becomes “personality traits”, instead of being recognized as trauma. Celebrating you deeply for your awareness and commitment to healing and showing up in your power for your daughter. That’s beautiful! I’m just curious Madison, what are you doing to end that cycle? What’s been supportive for you?

@Summer 💙💙💙That’s beautiful you have good memories!

@Darcel Being I just cut ties in January this year at the age of 36 almost 37. It’s been a process. I feel as long as her energy isn’t in my life like I am calmer, have more confidence & I am able to love myself more. I still occasionally wonder if I should talk or visit but she has proven herself to totally want to disrespect me & be an enemy not a friend or family so I feel instant anxiety at the thought of even talking to her. It lets me know I am better off w/o her in my life. My husband provides support & I have a very nice & non judgmental mother in law which helps. I also know that she has no desire to change at all & thinks anyone hurt by her words and actions is just too sensitive and she will gaslight most things she’s said later claiming she never said that etc…it’s been the same pattern forever & the only way to stop it in my life was to cut ties & stop being her punching bag.

@Darcel Being I feel like it’s a work in progress but I’ve come a long way and I’m proud of who I am becoming. I have been able to build myself up. I have a great partner who takes time to understand me, I have reflected and read many great self help books, practised lots of mindfulness, meditation and yoga. I think once I started focusing on me and looking after myself I realised more and more that I should be a priority, I am allowed to be happy and nothing that my parents put me through is a reflection of me as a person. I have forgiven them for my own sake but will not be returning for more of the same. It’s a long road but I feel mentally so much better than I ever have ❤️

@Darcel Being perspective and appreciation and becoming a Christian. She died when I was 21 so I never got to know her as an adult.