Just want to rant

I don’t know if I’m being dramatic but there has been a lot of things my MIL has done that’s made me feel a type of way. I’m a type of person that doesn’t like to cause conflict or awkwardness in the family but I really want to put my foot down now.

When my LO was born my MIL persisted on giving him water because that’s what they do in her culture. She wouldn’t let it go in the beginning and I told my boyfriend about it and he stuck up for me and said no but I have a gut feeling she was doing it without us knowing. At 4 months I started giving my LO purees and as soon as she found that out she started giving him heavy adult food without even asking me. It makes him so constipated as well. She also force fed my LO porridge to where he was crying so much and I explained to my boyfriend that I don’t think he likes it because he’d cry every time he ate the porridge and not for any other food. I also have a freezer stash of breast milk that I preserve at my boyfriend’s house for when I go out. I told them not to use and they just helped themself to it. Then yesterday my boyfriend’s dad took the baby out without even asking me. Bearing in mind I’m in the house. I just feel as if they don’t ask me anything and feel as if it’s their child which is annoying because I’d never take out any of their younger children without asking the mum or dad. There’s been so many other things as well.

Sorry for the long post🥲

in our community

Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.