Second baby??

Hi ladies, I thought I’d just start the conversation to those thinking of baby number 2! Is anyone else there at the moment? I keep doubting myself that I can physically, emotionally and financially do it. But I really want to do it! I know there is never “the right time”. I had a chemical pregnancy last month and before we knew it wasn’t a viable pregnancy I was so happy and excited - then came the “oh my god I can’t do this, I’m barely good at keeping 1 clean, fed, entertained etc, how would I deal with 2?!” Am I the only one that thinks like this?! Xx

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I’m like 7m pregnant with number 2 and get these thoughts all the time especially when my toddler is being difficult. I think it’s completely normal to have doubts and things but if it’s want you want I wouldn’t let the negative what ifs put you off because what if it’s amazing, what if they end up best friends and have an amazing relationship, what if they fit right into your family and it’s not as difficult as you imagined. Your first would be over 2 by the time you had a second so that would already make things slightly easier as they’re starting to get a bit more independent

You are 100% right! I just need to have more confidence in myself as a mother I think!

You do and i think I do sometimes too🤦🏻‍♀️, I’m sure you’re doing an amazing job and will do with another too. So many people do it and choose to do it over and over so how hard can it be right?😂

I fell pregnant when my son was 7 months. He’s the difficult child so I was terrified that the 2nd was going to be worse and I was going to struggle. We’re 12 weeks in and she’s an easy baby! So she’s fitted right in. It just becomes routine and manageable. You can do it! I love my babies and wouldn’t have it any other way x

I’m due early October. I stress about it but more about space etc:)

I had my 2nd in February so 14 months apart. Financially haven’t noticed to much difference at all. Some days I’m still in the mindset of if can’t! But most days I can. I have found the 2nd just fits in. Sometimes he has to cry a little longer than my 1st ever would for a bottle etc because I’m doing something for the eldest. But it’s just something that has to be done. It’s been tough but once they are both in bed I look back and think actually it was okay. I got through. Bedtime would be impossible with the both in them on my own (eldest still needs to be cuddled to sleep) but luckily my husband can be home every night for bed time. It’s not been the easiest but we are still here trotting through the days. Seeing my eldests face light up when the baby smiles makes it all worth it xx

I'm five weeks pregnant with number two now and have the exact same thoughts. And the accompanying guilt. I even cried when I found out, despite that it is very much wanted and we had been trying. But it was just the worry of our lives changing again and what my toddler would think. I just keep reminding myself that plenty of people do it!

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