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The first few weeks are so hard as a lot of it can seem not very real especially if partners aren’t going through the physical changes that we are, it’s also very normal for both women and men to feel nervous about the first 12 weeks- has he said why he is nervous? Is it because he wants to get to the 12 week scan? I’m sorry that you’re not feeling you’re getting the same excitement in return but I’m sure this will change with time especially when he starts to see a bump and the scan photos! I’m on second pregnancy and do feel a bit like the first 12 weeks is a bit of a process, generally feeling very rough with no physical indication of pregnancy eg a bump is hard, I’m 9.5 weeks and only just starting to feel more real now! Is there anyone else you could confide in? I’ve confided in a couple of my closest friends and both our direct families as well which is nice as there is lots of excitement!

@Emily Timbrell I think it’s because we suffered a missed miscarrage a few months ago so he’s wary which I totally understand as so am I but I don’t want to negotiate think through this one too. I’m only 7 weeks nearly 8 but we had a reassurance scan which was amazing to see the little heart beat but it’s still not put his mind at rest, I think after we get the 12 week one done he might start relaxing abit too xx

I’m really sorry to hear that it must have been really hard to go through that. I think you’ll find a shift at 12 weeks which really isn’t very long to wait! Congratulations on your reassurance scan 🥰

Yeh I kinda feel the same... My boyfriend just doesn't seem that excited yet 😬 we had an early scan and that definitely made it feel more real for him I think... But then he got covid and still has long covid so I feel like I've been looking after him more 🤦🏻‍♀️ and I guess he just hasn't been in the mood to get excited! Hopefully after the 12 week scan, we can start to plan more and it can feel a bit more real!