in Pregnancy loss, stillbirth and infant loss 👼

Handling pregnancy announcements

I hope I don’t come across as spiteful or selfish. My baby was born sleeping last month and I have just found out that a family member is pregnant. I wish I could say that I am happy for them, but they are in the most toxic and unstable relationship. I feel so sad that the world took my baby, and sad that a baby is going to be born into such an unstable household. I felt I was making progress but this news has made me feel I have taken 10 steps back. I am so sad, I miss my baby so much.

Show your support

Your feelings are valid. My toxic sil tried comparing my 39 week neonatal death to her 4 week miscarriage😅. When I was in the depth of grieving, I didn’t care whose feelings I was hurting, because I was hurting and unless someone’s gone through that trauma and type of loss, they wouldn’t get it. I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby🤍.

I'm so sorry. That is so hard. Your sweet baby's life was meaningful and important. I'm sending you a huge hug. Life isn't fair. Maybe there is a possibility you can be a light and good influence in the life of this family members baby?

I’m so sorry for you loss. There are no words 💔 Your feelings are so valid and relatable to us mamas in the loss community. Our daughter Marigold died shortly after birth in 2022. Despite time passing, healing and peace - I still struggle with pregnant and birth announcements. You have not taken 10 steps back, you are processing this news and reliving your grief all over again. Take all the time you need with this and hold space for your valid emotions. I often don’t respond to announcement posts or messages, or when I do it’s after some time where I’ve processed my feelings and feeling stronger. I’ve also cut ties with a friend who had 2 babies back to back in the time I lost my girl, and didn’t seem to care at all about our loss and it was the right choice protecting my heart. Sending you love and strength 🤍