Advice for fighting siblings

My kids are good kids. 85% of the time they’re good as gold. Sometimes, if I step away for a moment it’s world war 3. And sometimes it’s a whole day of it. Usually it’s just general bickering but other times it’s knock down drag out fights you have to pull them off each other. The only thing we’ve found that works is separating them but that’s not always possible. We’ve also tried bonding activities, talking it out, reward and punishment systems. It’s driving me crazy. I hired a sitter yesterday and they weren’t there but maybe an hour before I was called back because they’d scared the sitter with their vicious fighting. And they fight over anything and nothing. We can spend the whole day great, no attitudes, played together, played separately, everything’s good, then I go to the bathroom to hear screaming. Rush back in, one busted the others nose! Over what? They were looking at them🤦‍♀️ Or we’ll wake up and it starts at breakfast and I have to do my best to keep them in separate rooms.
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What are their ages?

How old are they? It sounds like there’s a lot of physical aggression going on. I could handle arguing and screaming at each other but not violence. What is the consequence for them when they are physically aggressive with each other?

7 and 8. Boys.

@Amy it depends on what they’re doing. If it’s something more simple like a push or a poke, I talk to them, they have to apologize, and they have to play separately for a bit. I do that for most of it, if it’s a bit worse same thing but make them do something nice for each other too. If it’s a bad fight I pull them off each other, have them in separate rooms or try to the rest of the day and they don’t get to come out of their rooms so no electronics either.

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