Relationship advice

Not normally one to post about my relationship but feel a bit at a loose end. My partner is an amazing bloke and is an amazing dad. But he just never seems to be at home. He works in the day which is fine but then does his hobbies nearly every week day evening, football Saturday day times and then it’s just a Sunday he’s home unless decides he’s going out. When he is home it’s normally Xbox or tv. Just feel he’s so absent at the moment. Ive tried talking to him but he thinks I’m in the wrong and that him doing his hobbies I should be supporting it. Which I totally am but I want him to spend time with our daughter and us too! Am in the wrong here?🥺

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Not in the wrong. Seems a bit selfish to not consider your feelings or want to be present. I get he has hobbies and a life of his own but you’ll grow to resent him if he continues on this way with no regard for you and the family. He should want to be a present father and partner!

Agree with the above!

What about your break and your hobbies too? If he is doing all of his and wants you to support that then I'd say you should get a hobby and he can support that and he then can spend time with the children? I know that doesn't solve the situation of you spending time together and as a family but could help him to realize? I just think you do need you time as well as seems your the one with the babies constantly...

If I got a hobby we would never have much family time though 🥺. @Trudi

Taking care of a baby is literally like a 9 to 5 or harder. The best way to prove this, is for him to do the care/entertainment for 1day during the weekend while you make yourself scarce. He will definitely appreciate your time and caring for the baby more. Lately, in this nice weather, my partner and I have ended up going out at least once every weekend. He gets loads of hugs and giggles from little one, which he enjoys. Drive to a beach in Wales, go to a Scottish town or the zoo ... just do something fun. Granted, our baby goes to sleep within the first 10mins outside but we still enjoy the time out.

I do get this but if his not willing to make time for the family time and is doing his hobbies then you still need a break, you are there for your children and give them all the love so you deserve you time so you don't feel overwhelmed and lose yourself as your more than just a mum! With you having time for your hobbies your partner will have the children in that time and will make him realize it can be hard and he can bond with the children more 1-1 to make him notice you need more family time. There is no point in forcing it, so you enjoy your time and give him the time to focus on what he wants and realize your doing a bloody good job and notice you arernt just a mum your his partner too! Xx