BM not genuine

So i just had my baby 7/12 and my husbands bm reached out to me in May offering to buy us something for our baby shower… (she didn’t get anything, not a shocker) but i thought it was sweet she asked. We apologized to how we bumped heads previously and been speaking since. She’s been checking on me for the most part about how im doing and she says i can’t speak to her if i feel depressed. I have post partum hemorrhaging and got rushed back into the hospital 7/19 so i had to get a hysterectomy two days ago and won’t be discharged until like another week… yesterday she freaking text me this: “Hey just checking in on child support this month. I know you've had a hectic month with the baby and what's going on now. I know you usually send it so I was just checking in on it” i feel so tried… like the whole reason she has been reaching out to me is to check on child support?! i feel disgusted for even thinking we could be friends fr… mind you me or my husband sends her the child support monthly at the end of the month .. never late or missed a payment. Why did she feel it was appropriate to check me about that especially when im so vulnerable??? i feel so bothered by it and want to snap.. she texted me that on July 31 at 10AM… instead of spazzing i didn’t respond and i just sent the money .. like she literally doesn’t care about me further more why would i not send the money ??? especially if i can text back.. like i feel like she tried to check me and was hoping i responded so we could go at it. I feel so offended bc im the reason she even gets CS and i make sure she has it .. so for her to text me about money i send her monthly felt confrontational af.. Am i tripping ? is this my hormones ? like i can’t fw her anymore i feel so stupid for thinking we could be friends fr..

Show your support

The fact she knows you make sure she gets it. She shouldn’t have asked about it she’s just being messy don’t let it get to you she’s just looking for a reaction

@Shontell that’s what i was thinking.. it took everything in me not to spazz bc wtf is that.. why are you trying to stress me out after yk what i have going on ?? no once did i make it seem like my situation was financially hindering us further more … ik we send you CS why wouldn’t you get it ???? why act like you were my friend to ask about some money , you could’ve been asked instead of pretend to be my friend . it makes me feel like she was praying on my downfall

She just want to reassure everyone that she’s in control that’s how some act and when they feel that they’re losing control they spiral and lash out

I think it’s inappropriate to bother you when you’re on the hospital (does she know that you’re in the hospital) however, by the little information given I don’t feel she’s being malicious. I’m glad you didn’t respond. I would honestly keep feeling her out after this and see how she is towards you.

@Alyssa she def knows i’m in the hospital and why im in the hospital, she asked when im gonna be discharged .. i feel like i’ve over shared with her and she’s gonna try to use my vulnerability against me .. my feelings are very much hurt and i feel stupid for trying with her. she always does this, she plays like she wants to be friends then she starts back acting bitter towards me