Need to vent

So BD said 2 years ago he didn't love me anymore totally out of the blue. For 2 years I've done counselling on myself and asked him to do couples counselling last year (he did 2 sessions and claimed it was causing us a bigger divide). Through out the 2 years we have had good times and bad times like any normal relationship. Fast forward to christmas last year. He announced he couldn't do this anymore and all the times I thought we were happy he wasn't. He said he wanted us to act like a family over christmas and he'd move out in January. January came and he found another excuse until it got to April this year and he did move out back with his parents. He then decided it was space and that we could try and work on our relationship again. Its been 4 months and tbh he's never attempted to "work" on us. He makes excuses and if I bring up anything that makes me unhappy or uncomfortable I'm causing an issue and a drama and why would he want to spend time with me and I make him angry to the point he doesn't want to be around me. How do you communicate icatr with someone who is always on the defense looking for an issue? Sorry for the rant ans thank you d9r getting this far!