This child is not sleeping and has been like this for a while . Please help !!!

She could be going through a sleep regression? My little boy has only just started sleeping though, he had 1/2 hour nap middayish and then bed for half 6/7 usually sleeps around 10hrs at night unless a loud car or ambulance passes out home xx

Yes the more I tend to her the worst she’s getting, she’s not crying etc so I’ve left her past few days, she’s had longer naps. Definitely think sleep regression as she’s all over the place. She has always had a musical night light, it’s quite dim tbh but has helped her keep calm etc when she has woke up x

I wouldn't worry about the amount of wake time before bed. If it's taking 2hours she likely isn't tired yet or is fighting bedtime for some other reason which will pass. We need 6hrs awake before bed now, sometimes longer if his nap was 2hours x

Mine doesn’t settle and relax unless she goes to sleep in my bed, with me. She used to sleep in her cot and sleep for 11 hours. We now wait until there’s yawning (which can be 8:30/9pm and then do bedtime. I then get into bed with her and shut my eyes and pretend to sleep, and she falls to sleep when she’s tired enough. If we try and do this in her room it’s fighting, screaming and a big stress. We take the easy road for now as we all need the sleep. Have you tried co sleeping? I know it’s not ideal but it sounds like you could both do with some rest so may be worth trying?

@Ani i have tried last night but she just plays and points eyes nouse etc on my face which makes me even more sleepy 😪. At the same time i am scared she’ll fall from the bed and it is quite high. She sleeps in the room with us though xx

@Stephanie i think she gets overtired if she’s up for too long before bed and it always results in her not getting enough sleep during the night as she gets up 8-9h of sleep, then she only has a short nap for the day and we just keep going on being overtired. 🤦🏻‍♀️ xx

Honestly it sounds like she just needs less sleep than you're expecting of her and is why you're ending up frustrated lovely 🥺 I'd honestly just wait until she shows sleepy cues and try for no more than 15-20 minutes of supporting to sleep and if she's not down, try a different activity in case it was boredom. Unfortunately sleep training rarely works indefinitely as sleep is developmental and isn't linear, lots impact it. They also can't truly self settle until 3+ because until then it's all down to temperament and it's a bit of a myth, because they genuinely don't have that area of their brain developed until then. I'd stick to a 1 hour nap max in the day and wake at the same time every day if possible, but pick one option first and do it slowly by reducing by 15 minutes for a week say then 20 and then 30 or whatever and it can take approx 3 weeks for a new habit to form at least and go from there 9-11 hours at night is very normal at this age and if she's low sleep needs 7-9 with a nap too is quite

Typical of a low sleep needs child. My babe does 10 hours max at night and if she does, she won't nap any more or maybe a 10 minute refresher max unless poorly/teething/nursery day. If she's averaging around 9/10 hours in 24 she's low sleep needs to it's tweaking it to try to suit you more, but bare in mind you can't make her sleep more than she needs unfortunately lovely which can be really hard if you're a high sleep needs person I know. Is there anyone that can help with bed time to take some pressure off you? Xx

@Rhiannon thank you so much for taking your time to share , it is actually very helpful everything you have said . I was thinking she might be a low sleep need child , she never slept very much and almost not at all as a newborn 🤦🏻‍♀️ She does around 10h during the night rarely 11h and sometimes 9h . I am thinking she could be overtired when she wakes from her nap after 1h because she wakes up crying and seems to br cranky for a little while. When she does 1.30-2h she seems to be so much better and happier. She is also cranky in the morning and makes me believe it all has to do with her nap and that’s why takes so long for her to fall asleep at bedtime . Right now she’s been up for 7.40 and she just can’t fall asleep, i am rocking her and nothing. She looks tired and like she wants to sleep but just can’t. I do have her dad that helps me out on he’s days off but i feel like if i let him take care of bedtime she takes even longer to fall asleep. So i am not really sure what to do