What made you want a second one?
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Having siblings doesn’t guarantee you a friend or confidant. You can be lonelier with a sibling than without. And it isn’t the kid who is doing the child rearing - you have to put all the energy into another baby, which is no small ask. My first makes me want a second. However, there are a lot of reasons why that doesn’t make it a feasible idea: finances, time, age, jobs, daycare, etc Others aren’t raising your kid, paying for them, or providing the energy and space needed.
There are lots of reasons to want a second. I wanted my daughter to have a sibling, but that's my personal choice. Lots of single children make their own village with friends, partners, etc. it's not necessary to have a sibling. If you don't want another, that's a perfectly valid decision. Do what's right for your family, not necessarily what others are doing.
I think you know you best. You know what’s going on in your life, your own feelings and what’s best for your daughter. Ultimately if you feel you’re one and done that’s okay, many people are. It’s easier said than done but try to just ignore what people say because they most definitely are not in your shoes ?
I personally want a very large family and get lots a talk back from people that should mind their own business. If you only want one, or you aren’t ready to have another, then that is nobody’s business but your own and your husband’s. For some reason people think they have more say about other people’s personal decisions than they actually do. They say that when you know, you just know. I have a friend that’s also a one and done and that’s perfectly fine. She was an only child and very happy and now she has a son of her own and is very much content and fulfilled with just him. You do you
As someone who grew up as a single child I can't say I regret not having a siblings, and there are sooo many things I got to do because my parents only had me. I'm also raising a child who won't have any siblings, I'm definitely a 1 and done, and am so glad I can pour everything I have into my 1 child😊. I know that my LO will have their own village of support when needed. I would listen to your gut, and notet the words of others influence you
I have a 21 month old, sooooo often people say the same thing. That he will be lonely etc. my fiancé is a hard no and I would be a yes in the sense that I loved being pregnant and loved loved the baby stage . I know no two babies are the same lol age is also a factor as I’m 37, and barely have the energy for one haha But if I had a second I would have to be a stay at home mom (I don’t make enough for 2 kids ) and mentally couldn’t do that. That alone is enough to not have one. I want kids to add to my life and not be my life. I see it all around me people trying and having their second around when their first is my toddlers age, it’s ok . I don’t feel pressured that way too, that’s their life not mine .