@Amy He actually brings up these verses to me often. And we talk about how a good leader is someone who puts everyone else’s “needs” above their own. A good tribal chief or king/queen is able to look holistically at their community and assess what needs to be done. My husband said previously how it’s hard for him to do that, be a man with so much responsibility. And basically I’m like “well you could’ve said that instead of being deceitful 😅”
@Amy I think conceptually he understands he wants to be a husband and father in God. He knows that it takes laying down his life (in a literal physical sense and an existential emotional/mental sense). He just has a hard time connecting the actions with the words and thoughts. And to me, that’s an issue. Not being true to one’s words. And the thought “if he wanted to, he would” pops up and makes me think maybe I’m just not the woman he wants to do that for really. Idk we’re just getting to the roots of our relationship and we see there wasn’t really a strong foundation so we’re having to dig and build from the ground up again and it’s heavy stuff.
I'm sure you know, a man's role is to love his wife like Christ loves the church. That means to lead but also to cherish and serve. Ephesians 5:28. Present him with this verse and see what he has to say. Maybe some Christian marriage counselling would help you to clarify what you both expect of each other and work out how your marriage is going to work. If you're in the UK I might be able to recommend something.