Husband won’t go to his son’s 4th birthday party next month
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@Mary I agree
@Mary when he said this his grandmother needed an explanation as to why he couldn’t go. And she knows I’m pregnant and due the same month as his son’s birthday when we made the pregnancy announcement that’s all she was worried about she even said herself soon as she found out “oh that’s close to his birthday” there was never any congratulations and this is our first child together and my first child in general. But now that it’s closer she’s showing that she don’t agree nor care above what we have going on. her response was to pay for his flight and we don’t even fly to Missouri we always take the 12hr drive to avoid having to rent a car. I love my stepson dearly and wish he could’ve been a part of all this from our wedding reception to maternity pictures and baby shower but he’s not so we’re just doing the best we can
Is he allowed to get his son to celebrate him with the two of you? It’s unfair to expect him to leave you all alone and have to travel all that way to celebrate a day that could be celebrated with his father, where you all live, and he’ll also be able to celebrate twice for his birthday which i think he’d probably love 😂❤️ He’s not wrong especially with the timing, if it was 3 months before, that’s understandable. But considering you’ve already been in and out of L&D, anything could happen and he needs to be there for the birth of his child. And his family needs to understand that.
@Airianna no the mom won’t allow him back after the stunt she did on my birthday last year smh she ran out the back door of his mom’s with him buried in her jacket while he’s yelling for his dad. Just to take him back because she changed her mind on when he was going back with her and they didn’t agree on him leaving a week early prior to her doing that. She said he needs to fix his relationship with his mom before she’ll allow him to have his son here again. And given my mil runs to her with all our business he only kept in contact while his son was here. Outside of his son being here he cut his mother off. My mil is very sneaky and manipulative.
He needs to be there with you, but the boys can plan a special trip for a few months after the baby is born. 3 months would make sense, but might be soon, depending on how things go with your child. At 6 months, they could celebrate his "unbirthday" or "half-birthday." Make sure he sends a present and calls on the day of the party. Sorry you are going through all this drama. I hope you have a smooth delivery and healthy baby 👶
Wow, that sounds very manipulative and controlling. Unless his son is in danger around you or dad, there should be NO reason why he can’t spend some time with him to celebrate his birthday, and then go back with mom to celebrate there. His own relationship with his mother has nothing to do with his own relationship with his son. Sounds very similar to my situation. 😭 We don’t deal with my bf’s mother or family either, and they want nothing to do with my kids. Only his son, and the bm. Also very manipulative, controlling and disrespectful. I’m sorry you all have to deal with that and hope everything works out. And you have a happy & healthy baby. 🩵
Honestly, I think he should prioritize being with you if you are this far along in your pregnancy. Even if you don’t go into labor when he’d be gone, you still need/deserve support and help! His son is gonna have many more birthdays and parties, but there’s only one birth-day lol. Ya the timing isn’t great but these things happen and going into labor is a lot more significant than a party in my opinion!