Am I inconsiderate?

My husband works long hours a day. He wakes up around 5am to go to work and come home around 5 o 6 pm depending on his days at work. I stay home all day with the baby when he comes I want him to do things and help me around the house and with the baby too! I get it he comes home tired and wants to rest and relax for the next day, so what about me? I hate and I can’t stand when he stays hanging out by himself for the rest of the hours. We haven’t seen each other that much how can you do that? Plus helps ONLY when I ask! What do you think about this matter? Any advice?

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Some men could be clueless and not know how or what to do. I think you should politely speak to him about it or give him gentle prompts when you need things done.

@Sophia thank you for your advice. Yes he always helps only when I ask! I don’t like that

Talk to him about it, I don’t think you’re inconsiderate as caring for a baby is a lot of work. Speak to him about it and be polite.

Communication is key 🔑

Can you give him a time of night that he can switch off? Like for example “I really need you to help me until 10pm and then after that you can unwind and chill out”. That way he won’t feel like he’s burning at both ends of the wick and he will show more initiative. Meet him half way!

@Emily he goes to sleep around 9! I get baby ready for bedtime around 8ish every day! Sucks that baby only wants is me ( I mean sucks bc I can’t do that much for myself) I feel like he thinks he go to work and he’s the breadwinner and I stay home all day!

Tell him to spend time with the baby while you catch up on housework. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Breaha I actually want to spend time with him at least!