Single mum living alone or with parents

Not posted on here in a while, looking to see what others personal experiences is. I’m 23 yo and have an 12 week old baby, I’m a single mum. I’m on the waiting list for a council house but haven’t heard anything yet. I’ve lived at home my whole life so am definitely worried about moving out alone with a baby. I don’t know if I should try push things forward with the council and get a house sooner or just wait and see when they come to me with a house. Did anyone else stay at home with their baby and for how long? Do you wish you stayed at home longer or did you manage by yourself with baby? He’ll be 6 months in November and although I’m not in a rush to get him in his own room, I feel like that’s when baby’s start transitioning into a cot and I should have my own house with his own room by then so i have the option. Also deep down I don’t want to move out until after Christmas
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Hi hun, I am a 37 y/o single mum with a now 11 month old baby.When my girl was born I was in a beautiful rental all set up with my then partner (father of my baby) & brother in law. I was diagnosed with PNDA shortly after & had little to no support in the home. My parents lived 2 hours away & would help where they could.I experienced DV in the home and was admitted to a mother baby unit with full intentions of returning to our home upon release.I realised it wasn’t healthy for me or for my baby & I am so thankful every day that my parents were in a position to take us in.The support that we get here is amazing. It’s a loving, respectful environment with the added bonus of my parents getting to witness & be a part of my girls special moments.It was a hard pill to swallow to move back to my parents with a baby in tow, especially at my age.But here I have help when I need it & can save for whatever our next move may be. My advice is to sit tight whilst you can.

@Shae thank you so much for sharing your experience and I’m so glad your both well! I’ve been toying with it for a while. I don’t feel like I’m being pressured to move out anytime soon but my dad made a comment the other day about it “not being a life for us”. My bedroom is a garage converted so we have plenty of space and although I don’t want to be here forever, i think financially moving out before Christmas isn’t a good idea. I receive UC and run a part time business so hopefully I should be able to financially afford it and be comfortable but maybe once Christmas time is out the way..

I’m a strong believer in that whenever you have a baby you need support whether that be from family, friends, partner etc but if you have the option to not do it alone you shouldn’t ! I know your dad made that comment but what about mum is she willing to help out ? If so, I’d take all the help I can get from my parents and when your place comes through you can still decorate and slowly move your stuff over you. Even at 6 months you may still want baby in with you.

Personally I moved back home after 8 years when I became single the help when I needed it most was great

I had to move home when I was pregnant. Sold my house and dealt with pregnancy and becoming a mum back home. As much as it has it's negatives like me feeling a bit of a failure. I'm 30. Had a baby on my own and have lost my independence in the respect I had moved out for years and had my own routine and rhythm. However. I've been able to readjust and just wait it out until I can get a house once again. The cost of living is so crazy that it's actually not a bad time to be back home. Helping my parents out as well as not having to worry about keeping a home for me and my son and the prospect of not affording it and losing it all isn't there :) one day we'll move out and have our own space and time. Until then, I'll try and focus on the positives of being home feeling like a teenager again 😂

33yo, Single living at home with parents and 18 month old since his birth. Don't know if I could have done it on my own. Or if my son would still be the amazing person he is. Getting ready to move out soon. You'll know when you're ready. Enjoy it while you can!

Waw these comments are so reassuring ladies, thank you💖

I’m 21yo single mom w an 8m old baby, currently we live w my parents and share a room/bed, were waiting til she’s about 3 to move out so tht I can save up enough for us to be comfortable . I get help at home so I’m definitely using This time wisely

hey mama! im a 22 year old single mom and my baby is just about 4 months. i’m currently living at home with my parents and likely will be for the next couple years, that being said i do have her own room for her at home. i would not change things at all nor do i plan to anytime soon. my parents have been so helpful through it all. support is so important with babies. stay at home as long as you can

hey i’m 23 single mama with a 7 month old, i initially planned to move out around 3 months after she was born but i’ve decided to extend till just before or after one. i don’t think i’d be able to manage by myself as her schedule is constantly changing. however once i feel like i am in a more consistent routine then i’ll be able to move out with less worry. do everything in your own time, i see the benefits of staying with parents as i have a very velcro baby i am able to leave her with my parents to get basic things done. all the best with your housing journey, hope you and baby are doing well xx

I’m living with my parents still and I’m 20, I’m here to chat though I just don’t wanna say too much about my housing here apart from dm xxx

I’m a single mum and my little one is now 11 months and I moved back home when I was 10 weeks pregnant, and still here now. I wish I had moved out now but I don’t want to push the council and I end up in a mother baby unit. I don’t hear good things about them. We are both very cramped in my room and my daughter has become very attached to me. My parents are a bit funny with mess also so I do feel like I’m forever having to try keep things tidy even though my daughter just wants her toys out all the time. I think it all depends what your living conditions and parents are like x

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