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Whose responsibility is it to make sure your child sees their parent? (No court order, not on birth certificate as didn’t show up) My ex and youngest son’s father blocked me for half of my pregnancy and then for an entire month after our son was born. Our son is now 3 months old and he’s only recently popped back up for about 5 weeks which is less than half of his life so far. He has currently told me it’s not fair that I get to have him all day and he doesn’t get to see him much. I told him that is his choice he doesn’t see him. We live opposite each other. OPPOSITE. It takes 20 seconds to walk out of our front doors and over the road. He knows he can pop over whenever provided we are in without plans. However he chooses to spend his weekends at his mums and asks to come over at night when our son is asleep. So I stopped asking him to be consistent and only reply if he messages re our son but he’s told me he’s getting fed up being the only one messaging. I don’t think it’s my responsibility too though. If he wants to have a relationship with his child then surely that’s down to him to make an effort? I tried my whole pregnancy and after birth to have him involved and I’m done trying. Am I wrong?

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It's his responsibility to make arrangements to see his child. How hard is it to text "are you home? I want to see my son. He's not serious.

He doesn’t even need to be texting much anyway. He wants back in your pants and pretends to actually care for his child. Your kid doesn’t have a phone, he’s 3M bd can ask for baby pictures and updates on baby but he doesn’t need to constantly text and you don’t have to text him back all the time anyway. Right now, baby needs bonding with his adults. If he wants to be a part of this baby’s life he gotta show up.

Your not wrong! I was constantly txting my bbydaddy till I was like u know what?? I'm not the one who's missing out on our son! You are! And I stopped! Can't force him to be a father! If he wants to he would! NO EXCUSES

His responsibility. You can’t make someone show up and be present. He doesn’t want to, or he would’ve been doing it this whole time. Don’t waste your time. If he’s serious you’ll know. But as of now I think he’s just trying to keep you running after him.

It's not your responsibility. If he doesn't make time then that's on him. I didn't even read the entire post. Just know, you're gonna be fine and your child will be fine. He will step up either now or never. Tell him though, you're not gonna allow him be jumping in and out of the kids life on whims because it is only emotionally damaging.

its his responsibility to ask or try for it, hes not so