Please tell me if I’m wrong

I find that nowadays there’s a lot of stories about miscarriages on social media. I know many people have had miscarriages and I don’t see anything wrong with making your own posts and sharing this. I find it a bit upsetting when you ask a question about a symptom or lack of symptoms etc and then someone says “oh that happened to me and it ended up in a miscarriage”. Am I wrong to think it’s not always necessary to tell people about your miscarriage if that wasn’t the question?

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Humm, could be, I’ve done that before and had 5 miscarriages before. I do it out of protection. Nobody told me anything at the time and I wasn’t ready for it, when I tell people I do it gently that “could be a sign of early miscarriage “ but not to be horrible but to help that mother be prepared for it in case it happens. We romanticise pregnancy and it’s far from being perfect. The reality is that it takes a lot of us physically and emotionally

I think if you’ve been through a miscarriage you find it very hard to “trust” in your pregnancy (speaking from experience unfortunately). Personally I wouldn’t make a comment like you said, as everyone’s situation can be very different, and I wouldn’t want to make someone else anxious if they don’t need to be. But I can see that people might think they’re being helpful, especially if they say it in a gently preparing way. Early pregnancy is such a minefield!

I don’t think it’s right to suggest to someone that they could be having a miscarriage no. I’ve had 2 myself and I would never turn around to someone and say ‘oh you might be having a miscarriage’ because there’s no need to add more panic to a situation that’s already scary. However, on this app you are going to find more people than you normally would who have been through these experiences as people tend to come to these apps for guidance. On the other hand, I was in one of these groups for my last pregnancy, who I’d built a bond with some of these women. I wrote a post basically to say goodbye to the group, to then find out that people had since put up something after I left along with the other mums who had the same situation to say we shouldn’t talk about it. Which again was vile as these people get to have their wonderful babies and we’ve just been through heartbreak and are being dumped and kicked to the curb.

It’s a tough one, but I don’t think it’s ever right to suggest a miscarriage to anyone. Advice on what to do or to see someone yes. But never put fear into a situation

I wouldn't say it's people telling you that you're going to have a miscarriage they are probably doing it out of good heart, they could mean oh keep an eye on that as I had a miscarriage with it. I really don't think it's to worry you