Feeling really down and guilty

I don’t know why I’m feeling so down. We tried for this baby for so long and it’s all that we wanted for months, but now I’m pregnant I constantly feel down, and just cannot be bothered to do anything. All I want to do is lay in bed and be depressed.. but I can’t because I have a 2 year old. I don’t remember feeling so down when I was pregnant with my first, I felt so excited. Why am I not feeling like this the second time, when this is all we wanted?!? Can’t shake this down feeling.

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I think it’s very normal with all the first trimester symptoms and hormones. I certainly felt down at points but am now reaching 13 weeks and starting to feel a lot more enthusiastic!!!

@Emily Timbrell thank you - it’s comforting to hear I wasn’t the only one who had these feelings. It probably doesn’t help that I’ve been really sick & tired, plus running around after my toddler. I’m only 12 weeks today so hopefully my feelings will improve

I have a toddler too so in a very similar position! Not easy when you’re feeling rubbish and it feels like you’ll never feel better but you will!

Yep i feel/felt the same! I dont have a child already so not the same situation but i was in denial and shock the first week we found out and its taken me a reallly long time to start feeling excited. I told my midwife and ive got therapy to help with it because i was worried about depression and im hoping that starts to help soon. I’m 13 and a bit weeks and starting to feel more excited, especially now i know they’re ok from our 12 wk scan, but i still struggle especially when it comes to talking to bump. I also notice when i feel sick/have been sick/had a bad symptom day, i almost resent the baby and don’t want to be pregnant anymore (which i feel guilty for and so sad that i even think like that when i’ve wanted this for so long) but again, that’s why i’m seeing a therapist to try help that because i dont want it to get worse and then struggle postpartum. Pregnancy is WILD and i underestimated the feelings that would come with it (i genuinely thought it would be ☀️ and 🌈 )!