Just commenting from what I see in the post and without full context but if you are unhappy with the arrangement couldn’t you both look for part time positions and then both contribute/ both get time at home? I personally think that having the option of having a parent rather than someone else looking after the kids is SO valuable for the littles! Especially if it would make little to no financial difference. That being said if you are not happy with the arrangement, it might be a good idea to find a middle ground?
Have u suggested that u stay at home and he goes to work? What does he say?
Why doesn’t he work ?