in New Zealand
Number 2?
Just found out I'm pregnant with number two (oldest just turned 2) and dad doesn't want to keep the baby but I do. No judgement pls! I would feel guilty putting him in a position he doesn't want to be in but also am I setting myself up for failure??? Him becoming an absent father ect.
I had a really mentally horrible post partum with my first which took a toll on our relationship majorly and I'm scared to go through that again for our sake but I want more kids.
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Hey Anon! I’m sorry to hear about your dilemma. In my opinion, it was your partners choice to have unprotected sex with you - awhile knowing he doesn’t want to have more children. He cannot force you to terminate the child as whatever you want to do with the baby is your choice as it your body. Having a great support system will definitely contribute to the growth of your family, and I hope that’s what you have. But I really wish he steps up and takes responsibility for you. Take care ❤️
This is a conversation you really need to be having with him. He can’t force you to terminate the pregnancy and if it would affect your mental health to do it your in your right to keep the baby, but you also then need to understand he may not be present if he’s expressed this isn’t what he wants and you go against his wants without a solid conversation. This is the result of an action you both made so regardless he has to take responsibility for it, however he is also in his right to make decisions based on what you choose from now on.