How to handle emotions and insecurties?

How would you handle if you went to the beach with your husband and there were so many beautiful women with perfect bodies and you know that your husband is seeing and looking while you are there, postpartum and looking like trash. How would you handle the jealousy? Please be kind as I am postpartum and not looking my best. I already feel bad, here for advice.

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Id say things like “omg this place is swarming with hotties! I can’t wait for when babies aren’t gnawing at my boobs, so I can get my body back! Wouldn’t I look gooood in that blue one, if I didn’t look like a tired seal in a sausage casing??”

You gotta own up to it. You’ve gotta push through. Say what you feel, without crying like a maniac, and let him do his mandatory Husband Job of reassuring you and telling you to shut up because you’re a goddess who just birthed his offspring.
And then you let him look, while you pretend he doesn’t mind your current Fatigued Orca Status and he gives you a kiss and says “you’re the hottest one here to me babe” and you reeeeeally pretend hard that it is true, and thank him, and flip your hair back.

Because if you married him, you trust him enough to know he DOES love you like that, and he will be here loving you when you emerge from the cocoon of post partum, godwilling 20lbs lighter and with a different haircut, 8 months from now.

I mean he shouldn’t even be looking in the first place ? There’s gonna be beautiful women everywhere he goes but as long as he’s not going out of his way to stare them down I wouldn’t worry much… he’s there with you to enjoy your company..

You just carried his baby(babies). He thinks you’re absolutely beautiful because he loves you for you and not just your body. It’s normal for people to look at other people around them but girl, you are not on their level. You’re a freaking goddess! Own that body that birthed a literal human. Comparing yourself to others is only going to drag you down. Focus on you and know that you’re amazing!

Well I've never had this problem, my husband is in worse shape than I am 😂😂

Although I know my hubby is a wonderful man, body and soul, I doubt he would be what the hottie girls are going for these days. Also just so you know, men will look at women even if they are covered head to toe.🙄

That's not to say I don't get jealous but i'd be more envious than jealous of the other ladies. I wish I had my pre baby little boobies back. I'm so uncomfortable having big boobs. 😂

Anyway, If I was you I'd book myself into getting a lil spa pampering and maybe a nice new haircut and a pretty dress. ☺️😄 It does wonders for when you feeling a bit down about yourself.

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