Any Postpartum moms struggling with PTSD from HG?

I’d love to connect with other moms struggling with PTSD postpartum. My LO is almost a year old and i’m still struggling with eating and drinking and too much weight loss. Any advice for how y’all managed this?

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i got diagnosed with ptsd after my hg pregnancy 16 months ago, i had emdr therapy which helped to some degree but i still struggle with food and drink - following for advice x

Oh interesting. I never heard of emdr before, but will research some more.

yeah deffo research it, it helped with the ptsd symptoms so much

Thank you for writing this, I’ve also struggled with putting weight back on and things triggering me postpartum.

To start with I tried taking one thing at a time, like the smell of my shampoo and mouth wash and just forced myself to turn the smells into a new memory. I stood there telling myself I wasn’t going to be sick, it’s over - and that has worked slowly.

But I have to tackle each thing individually. There are some things that I haven’t managed to tackle yet - mostly drinks! If someone opens apple juice, a j2o or orangina around me I will be gone 😂

Maybe try some new recipes so you don’t have an association with it to start with?

I find it easier with things I can identify. The other day there was a smell in the house and I didn’t know what it was, but it brought everything back and I was physically retching. My husband had to go around with febreeze before I could go inside 😬

I also still haven’t got back to my pre pregnancy weight. I’ve always struggled with putting on weight (not an eating disorder or anything, I must just have a very high metabolism). Usually that’s very handy but in this situation, very frustrating. I’m just trying not to weigh myself, keep eating meals and snacks and I’ll look at it again once I’ve stopped feeding, but that’s probably not great advice!!

If anyone has any advice on how they’ve put the weight back on (healthily) that would be great!

Great points! I have found that eating is easier when the food has more flavor because when I forced myself to eat while pregnant it was always bland stuff and water. I’m also down from pre pregnancy weight and continue to lose weight, which could be attributed to breastfeeding. Considering weaning if I continue to lose weight as i’m struggling to keep up with the calorie requirements. One day at a time I suppose!

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Crawling and walking

So my girl is 9 months now and shes great at sitting up and stays on her tummy for awhile but she seems to have no interest in trying to move or crawl or bum shuffle. Shes a big baby always has been but I'm disabled and I feel like it's my fault she's not hitting milestones I feel like there's something I'm not doing and it's making me a bad mum

Night feeding in sleeping bag

Do you guys keep your baby in their sleeping bag when you feed them in the night, or do you take it off? I take it off as don’t want him to be too hot but then sometimes when he’s sleepy after his feed and I go to put it back on him he wakes up and is fussy. Not sure if I should just keep him in it?