So annoyed with ex friend

So I have this friend who has no kids and is currently pregnant. It’s likely the first year in years she’s free from any type of smoking and drinking. She has a history of poor communication or suggesting plans to later tell me how she’s did them with someone else unaware. She had the nerve to text me this. Because I finally did a her to her. I texted her days later or when I felt like. She had the nerve to text me this. When even meeting her long term friends at her wedding I was picking up they deal with this behavior of not being sure to put their finger on what’s her deal. She is a good friend but sometimes she seems closed off and just seems to respond when she cares too which I don’t feel entitled to a quick response but eventually it’s like do you care to show you give a shit that someone is reaching out to maintain a friendship. So this was very odd. Just venting. When she’s trying on the wrong shoe. Because it’s her that I pick up I’m not the only one that has to be like are cool??

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It's a taste of her own medicine and she clearly doesn't like it. Have you explained to her how you're feeling? If she's a good friend she should understand and see it from your point of view also. If she doesn't, just leave her be. We spend too much time putting effort into someone all for them to not do the same. A friendship can't be a way one street

Ugh I have a friend like this. There when they want/need you. I’m not expecting immediate responses of course, we have children and it’s hard sometimes but when it’s over 24hrs it’s abit boring.
Is it man related do you know? Is she quick to respond when she is shit with her partner? Or is it like this all the time.

I know someone like this, who wishes everyone should be at her beck and call. Until it is the other way around. Then she becomes very busy.
I think given your information that; she is a good friend, and if you are still willing to holdon, you could have a conversation over how the friendship can move forward and work towards it.

she’s good in person more so but what else should she be on the other hand if I’m welcoming her into my home…I was going to give her a one word reply then decided it’s beneficial for her to have some insight and she really couldn’t disagree. But said she could understand one part regarding me. I was honest and told her poor communication would lose her a lot of friends and from what I gathered over time it seems or they often stay in touch the bare minimum.

it’s been that way but worst since she got married to someone who seems to always be arguing with her….it definitely seems she’s a friend when it’s convenient or like I’m a last resort friend and I shared that with her and added she should have some self reflection as to why she would think I would be that way. Like no self awareness. It’s like once I was EXACTLY how she was for two weeks she lost her shit

in person I don’t see her responding much unless it seems to be gossip about my child’s father then the response is quick. I just decided to drop it because I can’t deal with the close off ness or pick and choose when to be open. She seems in denial about her life and I think that’s why she can’t return it and calls it optimistic. When really she’s been miserable with a love bomber she’s been making excuses for the past 2yrs because they both wanted a baby. It’s just all over the place.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Crawling and walking

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Night feeding in sleeping bag

Do you guys keep your baby in their sleeping bag when you feed them in the night, or do you take it off? I take it off as don’t want him to be too hot but then sometimes when he’s sleepy after his feed and I go to put it back on him he wakes up and is fussy. Not sure if I should just keep him in it?