Not her mom …

I’m fully aware that I’m not the bio mom . I have no intention to try and disrespect or over step . It’s really hard that step moms are expected to pour endlessly but when it doesn’t fit expectations then I always get slapped in the face that I’m not her mom . It’s really hurtful . It feels like it’s a one way street . A thankless job . Having respect is a bare minimum but even that isn’t even met sometimes … but I’m still supposed to go above and beyond for the child …

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Girl PREACH 🙌🏼 after 5 years I’ve been creating boundaries for myself and my own mental health.

I am in the same boat. I pour my heart out then I get slapped for dumb stuff.

Give it time. Hopefully one day they will thank you for being there. Sounds like you are a mom. Moms rarely get the thanks they deserve until the kids are out of the house and it comes in retrospect.

I can relate. I told myself from the beginning that I would love my SKs unconditionally and lowered my expectations. I look to God for my reward and not even my hubby for appreciation, though he tells me. It hurts when I'm not acknowledged cos they go straight to their dad, or I'm the last to know something, and I'm informed on a need to know. But I try not to dwell on that feeling because it will dampen ur day or make u harbor resentment. I, however, prioritize myself and my mental health as I am responsible for my own happiness. High expectations lead to disappointment, heartbreak, sadness, etc.i wish u all the best.

@Ash well said, love your perspective

@Ash you couldn’t have said it better! We are the last to be informed on anything, our opinions don’t really matter, and we aren’t really appreciated. Because at the end of the day we aren’t mom, but we are expected to do everything mom does in our home. But dwelling on all that does make you bitter. So you have to establish boundaries for your self and your mental health. I love my bonus kiddos and that won’t ever change.