Not coping with the demands of life in general

Does anyone else feel like they just aren’t coping with their current life demands and balance. We only have one child (an amazing but very full on 15 month old boy) and I’m finding I’m at my maximum stress capacity and so utterly exhausted 24/7. I work 4 days a week managing a small company of surveyors and I know I’m super lucky to not have to work 5 days but money is still tight. I find I spend most of Friday doing housework and then will take little one out for a couple hours, Saturday is our fun day where we don’t do housework and just go out for the day, Sunday is food shop, more housework as house is usually a mess again by now, some food prep and washing etc so Sundays basically are another chore day. I find just getting me and little one ready and to nursery and work each morning super stressful as little ones sleep at the moment is so up and down and that means he’s so tired and teasy most mornings. By the time I get to my very demanding and stressful job I already feel so drained and like I’ve done a days work, then I have to get through my work day and the evening routine. Little one isn’t napping enough at nursery so he’s so overtired by the time I get him home, we feed him and get him ready for bed etc. it’s took us 3 hours on average each night to get him to sleep for well over a week now. We have next to no support. Sorry, just a rant. Ps my partner is amazing and very hands on when not at work but goes to the gym early and then onto work very early so its usually up to me to deal with little one in the morning. Partner tries to do bedtime to give me half an hour to myself but I get tagged in a lot recently as little one is so overtired and not settling. Any advice?

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Yeah, I get you, my husband works out of the house 60+ hours a week so a lot is on me. I also have Fridays off. some tips Online food shopping - I refuse to spend my weekend at the supermarket. Look into cleaning routines (clean mama is one) so you do a bit each day and you don’t spend your weekends trying to clean it all. If you can work it into your budget, a cleaner. I have one for 2 hours every week. But some of my mum friends have one every 2 weeks. (I am very aware this is a privilege to have) Write down what needs to be done and split tasks with your partner. And they have to manage remembering to do them. Depending on your stance, sleep training. The Ferber method will work the quickest. Check out that sleep doc on insta who goes through all the methods though from CIO to Ferber, to no crying at all.

Have everything prepared the night before. I only go into the office once a week, but I will have my clothes, my daughters clothes, work bag, my lunch bag (minus fridge food) ready to go, so in the morning I’m not stressing trying to find it.

Slow cooker meals or bulk preparing a salad / soup. So you’re not spending loads of time cooking. I have a soup maker too, 20 mins and you have fresh soup for about 3-4 portions. When I’m cooking I make more and have leftovers. I try to make things my daughter can eat too (use low salt etc) and then freeze her stuff in portions (b&m has some great sized portion pots) and then I can just quickly microwave a meal up for her. Homemade hide the veg pasta is one she loves, or curry & rice.

I feel exactly the same and am in the same position as you. Life just feels so relentless and I need a break. I’ve decided to take a couple of days annual leave while little one is at nursery to catch up on jobs at home and then hopefully still have a bit of time to relax although I doubt I’ll have time for that. Any this Friday is my last Friday off and then I’ll be back at work full time and don’t know how I’ll cope then! Here’s hoping it will get easier as they get older and more independent but also want another one soon!