Watching MAFS with my husband and Amy has said "if you can lie over something little, you can lie about anything" and my partner pipes up and says "true dat" which has sparked an argument 🙄

He has this high school friend who has always seemed to me that little bit more but he's sworn blind for years that they had no history together and it was all in my head. Then one night, really randomly, he came out and told me that they had slept together but it was years before he met me, and he lied to protect my feelings. And I've never forgotten it, because my gut told me the 2 of them had history and he put me down for it, when the whole time I was right. I wasn't bothered that they had history, I was 100% bothered that he lied and the above title of him agreeing about small lies vs big lies bought up that for me again and now we've gone to bed separately because he didn't like me calling him out on his past tendencies to tell lies 🤦‍♀️🙈

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That’s a pretty huge thing to lie about and honestly I would have trust issues from that day onwards. Lots of people don’t like it when their partner remembers their lies/deceit as it’s holding a mirror up to their face and exposing them as a bald face liar and also it makes him look like an idiot as he was loud and proud agreeing with the MAFS chick, when his own hypocrisy should have humbled him 🤦🏽‍♀️ The pettiness in me would stop doing anything for him until he was forced to apologise and admit he was in the wrong 🤣

If your partner learnt a lesson and doesn’t lie about small things anymore then he absolutely is ok to agree with it. Not everyone continues making the same mistakes, people are allowed to change. If that’s how he feels today and he’s strong about not lying big or small, then awesome! Atleast he is able to acknowledge his mistake and feels confident in that.

@Sera Kay but has he though? If he truly acknowledged his mistake and was confident he no longer lies, he would have agreed with Incog when she reminded him of the huge lie he told and maybe laughed it off and reassured her that he is a changed character and that would have been that. But instead, he argued with her and chose to be pathetic enough to sleep elsewhere. How is that taking accountability of your actions? 🤔 Sounds like he was just vexed she called him out on his BS and he got embarrassed.

@Sera Kay Noooo he still lies! About the smallest things as well, like he "takes the dog for a walk" that means he's going to the pub, and he knows I know that but still insists on not actually saying that he's going to the pub. He once drove his car home drunk, parked it up the road away from the the house and told me he got a lift home, but I went out early the next day and obviously saw his car parked up the road 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ what he lies about isn't even worth the lie 😒

@Neena To be fair I did put "past tendencies", they're still very much current tendencies to lie about little things, and yeahh there's definitely a small part of me that doesn't trust him because of him saying "I lied to protect your feelings" always makes me think how far would he go to protect my feelings?

Throw the whole man out then sis And yeah there was definitely lots of missing information when I wrote my comment. Sue me 🙄🤣

@Neena It was the pettiness in me that reacted to his comment 😂 I don't think he was expecting such a backlash from what he said, but I did sit there and think what a bloody hypocrite!! And then my paranoid overthinking self thought, well he's agreeing with her so what bigger lies is he telling me 🤦‍♀️