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How to get over cheating…

I been cheated on multiple times in my relationship and I’m pregnant with our third child still feeling insecure that he still might be cheating. I feel silly for staying and don’t know how to overcome it. Anyone been cheated on and learned to cope?

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Honestly I was cheated on whilst pregnant and I don’t think you do learn to cope. I think it really depends on how they are after the cheating happened, for me I felt like he was wasn’t that remorseful with the things he said. It just ate me alive. But also if they keep cheating, then they’re not remorseful are they, because they keep doing it x

Not sure how to get over it without being toxic but, how could you fully get over it if he will repeat the offense? There gotta be some consequences so he had a reason not to do it again! For me I may forgive once, BIG maybe because I already came with trust issues and had to learn to trust which has been broken. 2nd time I’d have a hard shell and things wouldn’t be the same for sure and I’d be watching him like a hawk!! Not sure if the relationship is worth it at this point. Find a boo that has respect for you and takes your mind off his cheating A**. At this point I’d be spending up all his money or using him for whatever he’s worth cause that’s what some men do to us!! (Toxic me) You should find a couples therapist and see what’s going on, why things are the way they are and if it’s worth fixing. Let him know you will not continue to be a rug for him to walk all over. what makes you happy?(that’s not being done)let him know its a deal breaker do it or it’s over!(non toxic me) lol

@Kay 100% 😂 if hes been using you it’s time to use him back for sure

It’s not that simple. It’s all true, you never really truly over come infidelity. But you need to ask yourself, what was it for him? Why he did what he did? Who that woman was? Was it serious? One time and to the next? One time and regret? What he means to you, what he gives you? Do you really love him and what that love to you is? Does is give comfort emotionally or just financially? Often men don’t mean anything, they simple creatures, sex doesn’t mean to them what it means to us, women. I am not saying he has rights or anything. But sometimes if he is important part of your life, gives you sense of family, good husband, good father, good son in law, it is better learn how to understand why and maybe fix it together or look the other way. It all romanticized about love and sex, that if he loves he never cheats. Not true in real life. People more complicated than that. Love and sexual attraction is totally different subject.