I fell in love with him... didn't mean to.. help

I have fallen in love with a man that is my best friend. I didn't mean to and I know he doesn't feel the same way we talked about it several months ago and it was a quick conversation about how we could never date. We moved on and do so much together. I don't want to not have him as a friend but I am falling in love with him. I see him every day. We spend so much time together... it's impossible. We are both single... anyone have any feedback/advice?

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He’s not interested so you need to spend less time with him- you are just hurting yourself because all this time together is just confusing you. You can be friends but you need some time away to cool off and maybe go on some dates with new people so you can move on.

@Lyss you are correct. I need to detach which is hard because I feel like he is always there. He is going to wonder why. I think i just need to suck it up and tell him that is why i am pulling away.

Just think if it is worth potentially ending a friendship. I married my childhood best friend and after 2 kids and 13 yrs of marriage, we hate each other. He can’t be civil. I don’t regret my kids, but if I had some idea it was going to end up this way, I would have never said yes to dating him.

A man genuinely being a single female’s best friend is - gay or lying/hiding 🤥 Did he say he could never date you?

I really am trying to step back. He sends me pictures of things I like and messages me every day. He even made a comment about how attractive I was... it's weird. I NEVER initiate anything. We went out to what was supposed to be a quick dinner and he ordered another round of drink and said he wanted to hang out a bit longer. It's confusing AF. Then he invited me to go skiing with him... I guess this is all a friend thing but I can not read this situation clearly at all.