Need Advice Please!

Is she teething ?

Toddlers are stubborn when it comes to not eating. You could try reducing her milk intake to only drinking during meals so she won't be too full on milk. They also get bored during meal time, so you can be creative (read a book for her at meal times, have some of her stuffed animals sit with her). Tell her before you go to eat: We'll eat in 10 mins, 5 mins, etc.. Also I know most people say a structured meal time (where she always eats at the table) is the best way but I do sometimes feed her on the couch or somewhere else when I've given up. And don't worry, she'll be fine. They're phases that come and go. Nothing that you're doing wrong. If you try to force it on her she might end up hating meal times for a long time.

Does she like fruits? I have a 20 month old as well and sometimes if we start off a meal with fruit, it will whet her appetite and she will eat something else. Changing the location of meals sometimes helps too. My daughter fought the high chair for 2 weeks and we took a break from it and had her eat her meals from the coffee table or stool. It helped her feel more independent while eating and it helped. We have transitioned back to the high chair so we can eat together. I also agree to limit milk intake to 500ml per day and only at or right after meal times. It's frustrating when they refuse but they will get hungry eventually and eat.

Mine is going through a very picky/stubborn phase and would only drink milk if she could lol, just like yours. I've been here before. It's a phase and it will pass. Highly recommend giving milk only after meals but wait at least 30 min so she doesn't hold out for milk. Also, keep offering healthy foods. Eventually she will eat the food. You have to be strong! Less snacks also help. If she is not eating and you are concerned, you should speak to her doctor. Good luck

The warning for eating. I second that like 10, 5, 2, 1 countdown for her. That has worked for my kiddo. Also the reduced milk might help too. It sounds like she’s really getting the maximum she should be having?

Whenever I’m worried about my children’s eating habits I remind myself of we decide what and when and they decide how much. So as others have said, maybe give less milk at more strategic times. And try your best to ignore the in-law comments, I know how hard it is to receive the criticism, both my mom and my MIL have so many comments.