Moms of more than one

This might be a strange question, but it’s something I’ve often thought about. I currently have one baby who recently turned a year old. His father and I broke up (which was an absolute blessing for me). I had always insisted I was one and done, but I think that had a lot to do with me subconsciously refusing to have another child by him. I’m currently dating someone else. We each have one child from our previous relationships. He wants 2-3 more kids. I feel like I could be on board with that partly because I wanted a girl so badly and ended up having a boy. But I have such a hard time rationalizing how I could have enough love and attention for another child, let alone 2 or 3 more. I mean, I love my baby so much, it seems kind of wrong to me to take away attention from him for another baby. If you are a mom of 2 or more kids, what are your thoughts? Did you feel like I do before you had a second or third? How do you feel about it now?
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I have 5.. 2 from my ex-husband and 13 years later 3 from my current husband. They are now 20, 18, 5, 2.5, and 9mos. Every one of them are so different and amazing, with each one you love them with everything you have.. that doesn't subtract from the love you have for your first, and then you have these awesome moments where you see them loving on each other ❤️ there's nothing more special. No lies; it's crazy and there's days that you feel like you're going to loose it but ultimately the awesome outweighs the rough. When I'm gone they will have each other.

More than one kid is amazing! They are all so different from each other and I love them all so much, I had sort of the same feeling after I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd. I already had a boy and a girl and just thought how can this baby fit into my life😭 but he’s 2 now and I can’t picture life without him and my heart just grew bigger to have more love

I have 4. And 10 years in between my last 2. 3 have 1 dad, then the baby is my husband's. I felt the same way with my first. I was worried about her thinking I didn't love her as much. So I decided to include her in as much as I could. She was at the hospital when her brother was born. We talked about him in my tummy often She let her hold him as much as she wanted (if he was ok with it). When I nursed, we watched TV together. When I changed his diaper, she handed me stuff. When dad got home or someone came to meet her brother, I took time for just her. We still did our night time routine with her. But I never realized I could love 2 little people the same yet differently. And now I have 4! Each one unique. Each one I interact with dofferentky based on what works for them. I love all of them the same and still have lots of love to give (but no more kids! Lol) your thoughts are good thoughts. Means you'll love your kiddos right! It's amazing how much capacity we have for loving our minions!

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