What would you do?
If you were to drop your one year old off at their dads and they were very visibly hungover, would you leave them there?
Long story short, my ex likes a drink and when he goes out, he takes it too far every time. This weekend, he has been away with his mates for a drinking weekend and is still expecting to have our child this afternoon. There has been 2 occasions in the last 3 months where i haven’t deemed him as fit to have her because of alcohol. But the last time, I stopped him from having her because he was clearly hanging out of his ass and I didn’t feel comfortable leaving her. After getting advice from a solicitor, they have basically said that him being hungover isn’t a concern and only if he is drunk/drinking/ or smelling of alcohol should I stop him.
The last time was extremely traumatic for our child, left myself and her very shaken up ( a lot happened) so I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for it again. But i just don’t feel that after a heavy weekend away, he is going to be in a fit state to care for our daughter (only has her 7 hours a week). He makes out that his parents are there and that she will be fine but I don’t trust them, never see them so would have to take his word for it. And it just goes against all my instincts to put her in his care when he isn’t fully with it.
The solicitor is a moron if they think its not a concern , how can they be 100% sure that you’re child will be taken care of by someone whose hungover/intoxicated/drugs , even if something happens to your baby in an emergency will you be able to trust him to make an alert decision straight away and take the right actions to help ur little one . His parents are not your child’s guardian if they want to babysit their own grown ass child then so be it but don’t put your child in harms way and expect no trauma in the future because they were meant to stay with dad on weekends who spent his weekends hungover or drinking