Housing advice

Hi guys, Just wanted to get some advice (it’s going to be a long post i apologise!) Me and my babies father have recently split, i live with him, my 1 year old and his family as the family member i used to live with passed away while i was pregnant so had no where else to go. (Its his parents home) Basically i have approached the council and got an appointment with the homeless team on 5th December and have also spoke to the domestic violence support team so they can help as I have suffered emotional and verbal abuse from his family and they have asked me to leave. Me and him still have to share a bed and room with our little one as they don’t have a living room as they made it into a bedroom. Obviously it’s not great having to still share a bed with an ex for another 2 weeks but its the earliest the council could see me. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is there anything else i should do to support my application? Is there any other support I can try request? I hope this makes sense! I really need the councils help but so scared they are going to tell me they don’t have a duty of care to me and my child and don’t want to stay in that house any longer than needed! Any advice would be really appreciated ❤️

Show your support

You need to put pressure on them, if you turn up and say you literally are unable to return back home as it’s not safe for neither you or your child and the parents have said you can’t come back, they’ll have to put you into an emergency accommodation. Even if after the appointment they say you’re eligible for assistance more than likely they’ll see if you’re able to stay at the home until they find you a temporary accommodation. Is there anybody else you could stay with? A friend? A different family member? It could be a long road ahead.

Also, if it’s domestic violence related, you’re able to approach any council for help and they have a duty of care, it doesn’t have to be your original council

@Tayler thank you! I’m going to tell them that his parents have given me until the date of my appointment to leave & my mum is in temporary accommodation so can’t stay with her and my dad has dementia so me and my child cant stay with him either, sadly don’t have any other support apart from that 🥺

Just stay firm honestly I’ve noticed they take people for a mug. They do have a duty of care towards you as you have a minor. Please keep proof of any abuse as this will help. Shed lots of tears and yes tell them the date you need to be out by, they will also contact his family to see if you’re telling the truth

Also stay strong because the homeless journey is not easy! I’m in a hostel in Hackney with my 2.5 year old and another one on the way with no hope of getting moved out. But even this I am so grateful for

if you want to, message me privately. I’ve been through a similar situation ☺️

@Nili can i ask how your hostel is?

For me it isn’t bad apart from the fact where not allowed visitors. But if you have bad neighbours they can make your life hell